Is this normal?

by iknowall558 12 Replies latest jw friends

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  goldensky

  Iknowall558, how brave of you to open up like this, revealing feelings that, as you say, many of us might hesitate to acknowledge in public! You are all the more to be respected for voicing them though.

  Is it normal? you ask. In my opinion, it's definitely nothing to be ashamed of, but there's no reason why you should put up with those uncomfortable ups and downs that make you suffer emotionally. I agree with the other posters that you should seek help from an expert. More and more people do it nowadays and sometimes it works wonders. I'd give it a try, it may help you tremendously and permit you to remain in that state of "contentment" for much longer periods of time and the lows to be shorter and less intense (mind you, we all have our mood swings, so you'll never be totally rid of those emotional changes). I'd just make sure the help you get is not only professionally competent, but also compatible with your personality.

  All the best to you.
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  iknowall558

  I didnt want to bump this thread back up, but know that I need to in order to say thanks to all of you for your advice and your kindness. I really appreciate it.
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  nugget

  Iknowall558 I read all your posts with interest and often awe. Yes what you feel is totally understanable and you are in desperate need of professional help. I don't say this glibley, in the UK we are a bit reticent to seek professional help thinking it labels us as a total nut case but sometimes there are occasions when a third party who can help us cut through the crap in our lives is essential.

  You have been through a cult exit, marital problems and infidelity, sexual assault and mental assault by the organisation. At the same time you have had to be strong for your boys and cope with day to day issues while the big picture was shifting all around you. Don't kid yourself you have been extrordinary. Many of us would be a gibbering non functioning wreck at this point but you are obviously made of sterner stuff.

  No you are not normal you are exceptional but in order to embrace this new life you have emotional house cleaning to do. This is time to think of you. It is Mother's Day today but even really good mothers don't do it all alone and know they have to be on top of their game. Seek all the professioanl help and board support you need to give your new life a jump start.