Something had felt 'wrong" for a long time but I think the tipping point was finding out - long after I was baptized and a while after I was married - that there was a 'secret elder's manual". That I think was the first real big red flag, I remember thinking, "No. What? That's the kind of thing a cult would have!"
Little did I know the Flock book was downright inocuous compared to the shit they'd been getting away with for decades...