Sorry for your loss. You're a good man Jeff.
I just put a bullet in the head of....
by AK - Jeff 35 Replies latest jw experiences
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AK - Jeff
Such good people here. I am blessed to have come to know you.
Thanx Idrnomo, Michelle, and MrsJones. MadSweeny I loved this:
he'll go on functioning as "23 of 75" in his congregation.
How true.
Jeff
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DoubleVision
Sorry for your lose and sadness Jeff but thanks for sharing. It really amazes me that these people spend countless hours trying to convince "worldly" people that true happiness is found by coming to know the Watchtower.
DV
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PSacramento
Sorry to hear that Jeff, truly.
It saddens me to see the pain that is NOT suppose to happen, the pain that happens when love takes a back seat to "the organization".
Deeply saddened by this.
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AK - Jeff
Thanx DV and Psac.
You know another lesson to be learned is the time it takes to shake the cult mentality [at least for some of us]. I have been out for 6 years - and it took all that to look at my former best friends' choices regarding his children and to see that he was guilty of total parental neglect toward them all these years.
It was kind of odd - just hit me in the face one day this month. I finally was so upset that I had to 'confront' him with the reality of his actions, and how that reality paralleled his treatment of myself [or anyone else that got in the way of his relationship with the religion]. Until recently it had just slid past me. I was oblivious to the pain his choices had caused. I knew about when I was a Jw - I mean I knew he had moved here and left his kids there. But I didn't 'get it' until now.
His response was kind of interesting. He told me I was 'a sick man' for having written that letter to him, that he was going to 'send it to everyone' he knew [as if somehow my pointing out his personal lack of integrity toward others, especially his own children, influenced by the cult mentality would paint me in a bad light]. I didn't understand that. But I think it is indicative of how the cult fosters mental illness of a sort. They are so bent on the idea that 'Jehovah is with us, how can we be bad people?' bullshit mentality, that they cannot see even a vague outline of reality.
Sad.
Jeff
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jambon1
I feel you have done the right thing.
In your last comment there, you put it so well regarding their inability to see even a vague outline of reality. This is what has become so clear to me in recent weeks. It truely astounds me when you hear some of the remarks that JW's make & even worse, what is published in their literature. They have put themselves in their own world which is so far removed from reality. It must be difficult for them to reconcile what they are taught at the KH with what they actually see in the real world.
I had a close JW friend remark to me recently that 'they ARE the only ones who are preaching what the bible says'. And she really believes that.
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AK - Jeff
We certainly did believe that Jambon. I don't know how we did - but we did.
Jeff
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troubled mind
(((Jeff))) I don't think there is anything more I can add that others have not already said other than , Sometimes we just have to do what We have to do.
Your a very strong ,caring person and it sounds like your cousin needed this wake-up call . Who knows he may let it sink in, and realize the error of his past .
It certainly is sobering to realize we were to some degree just as dependent when we were JW's.......
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willyloman
One of life's most liberating discoveries is that you do NOT have to make room in your life for toxic relationships, like the one you described. You can (and should) just let 'em go. The payoff for doing so is bigger than we can imagine at first, but as time goes by we realize that our life began anew the minute we understood this.
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yknot
It is like putting down a diseased pet......... needed to be done, but still a painful loss.
I am sorry, maybe it will help wake him up one day (probably not based your earlier assertions)