by captain 19 Replies latest jw friends
Do you ever feel guilty about the way you pre-judged others when you were a drone?
I feel guilty about it every day!
People's lives are so complex, we know so little of their personal struggles and "thorns in the flesh" yet we're conditioned to prejudge on a checklist of criteria published by a few men in New York.
At one time, I did make that mistake. I was brought in where I had to get rid of my music by throwing it away instead of selling it, where they were too strict on what had to go, they were strict about watching adult-themed movies (and not sex, either), zero tolerance on holidays, and so on. I am sure that helped make others think I was a lousy friend--yet, that is what the hounders wanted for me.
I was judgmental; I regret that; I have asked for and been granted forgiveness for my foolishness.
Sylvia
To this day (and I'm going on 2yrs being DF'd) I feel BAD for how I treated other DF'd people that I knew...specifically this one sister I knew. She was my best friend at the time, and we had sort of falling apart because she was older then me and was living her life. Well I ran into she and her mom in the grocery store one day and ran over to say hi...her mom told me that my friend was DF'd and then the mom started crying. I toos tarted to cry, and my friend (who was standing RIGHT there between the 2 of us) started to cry...and not ONCE did I make eye contact with her or say a word to her. I just hugged her mom IN front of her and walked away. How freakin selfish is that??? I mean, as if I had NO heart. That still bothers me.
That still bothers me.
Take it to Him in prayer and leave it there!
Here's a hug for the 3 of you!
Sylvia
Getting rid of my black and white thinking was extremely difficult for me. I applied it to all areas of my life, including religion - and not dubs either.
It's a difficult habit to break, but for me to be happy I needed to get rid of that self-destructive behavior. Applying unbending rules to everything in the world doesn't work.
*giving Shamus a chaste smooch on the forehead*
Sylvia
I was judgmental and aloof. I thought I was superior to everyone and that they had nothing to offer me. It would take years for a coworker to get to know me on the same basic level it only takes weeks or a couple months for normal people to get to know each other at work. I don't like to think I was a complete a-hole but I have to be honest, I wasn't a really great guy.
I was so super spiritual ...so clever and righteous...how awful of me ..
Loz x
I have felt terrible about the way I treated df'd ones and have told several of them how sorry I am that I treated them that way. All was forgiven by them, which shows me which of the two groups have the right attitude.
