Christian Friend Prayed for Meal WITHOUT Invitation to do so!

by White Dove 32 Replies latest jw friends

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  White Dove

  She was visiting for breakfast and we hadn't seen each other for over 2 years. I have since stopped being a Christian and have been exploring paganism.

  I don't advertise this for fear of offending people and getting judged for it.

  So, we sit down to breakfast that I cooked at my house, and SHE asks ME to say the prayer! I said that I'm not a Christian. She said, "Of course you are!" I said, "No, I'm not." She said, "You changed your mind, again?!" I said, "I guess so." She said, "Well, I AM a Christian and I love my Lord, so I'll say it anyway."

  I bowed my head and said amen dutifully, all the while thinking, "You are NOT coming back to my house, you pushy person!"

  First, SHE was visiting ME at MY house.

  Secondly, she knew I wasn't a JW any more and was exploring other faiths to find out which one is right for me. They were all Christian at the time she and I were together (interpreter/deaf client).

  Maybe she thought that I chose to be a JW when I was one before.

  I really only changed my mind one time from Christian to non-Christian. Really, it was from JW to visiting churches to paganism. She left before I got into that, though.

  Some Christians are soooooo pushy!
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  Lozhasleft

  How very rude...what a pity you didnt say 'Actually, if you want to pray to your personal god in my home, I'd prefer that you do it privately please'

  But its easy to think of what to say after the event isnt it? I bet you were too shocked to even respond. And how dare she make a snide remark about your choices...the audacity of the woman! These days I try to train myself to stop if I feel something hurt my feelings....stop and say 'hang on I've got hurt feelings...did you intend that?' ....sometimes it works and then I feel really good about myself for being assertive, but still it often doesnt and I have to kick myself later...hence my motto: 'Dont let anyone put you down; and dont do it to yourself.'

  Big hugs - I think you deserve better friends hun

  Loz x
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  THE GLADIATOR

  I bowed my head and said amen dutifully, all the while thinking, "You are NOT coming back to my house, you pushy person!"

  Ah! Giving into peer pressure is a mistake. Your friend can thank her Lord for your food, if she chooses to but you have the right to plead the fifth.
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  tec

  I think you showed more respect for her beliefs than she did for yours. She could have bowed her head and said a silent prayer, in keeping with respect for you and your house.

  Do you think she was just clueless about your objections?

  Tammy
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  peaches

  yup,,,,she is not a true or real friend....that is sad....and if she is that way,,,,doesn't sound like a she will be a friend for you ever...peaches..
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  journey-on

  I think you did just fine. I say, pick your battles wisely. Perhaps your intuition told you this was not one to fight at the moment. Perhaps another opportunity will arise when you will be able to discuss it calmly and more intelligently with her. The door was left open for that, imo.
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  White Dove

  I'm thinking that it's not just because she's a Christian, but rather because she is just a pushy person, period.

  It seems that the Christian persuasion appeals more to pushy people than non-pushy people.

  Her daughter went to college in NY right out of HS, and her husband got stationed in Turkey about 5 years ago, leaving her and her daughter behind. (We met in DE before she moved to LV).

  He recently asked her for a divorce.

  She is losing her loved ones one at a time.
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  journey-on

  Did she show up at your house uninvited or did you invite her for the visit and breakfast?
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  White Dove

  I invited her to my house when she said she would be in the area and would like to get together for breakfast. She suggested a restaurant, my house, or she'd eat before she came. I chose breakfast at my house.

  Yes, I was surprised by the sudden prayer. I did say that we can say our own, but she wasn't listening.

  I don't want to pursue this friendship, because I have seen this kind of person before many times and know how it will turn out.

  It would be poisonous. Me thinks she's controlling.
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  shamus100

  le sigh...