Did you ever pass up an opportunity to leave the truth?

by truthseeker 22 Replies latest jw friends

  • Heartbreaker
    Heartbreaker

    Yes, a few times I could have, twice if I'd been honest with myself, and once if I had just been brave.

    I was a pretty bad teenager as far as promiscuity and sneaking around etc, and I lied like a rug to get out of it many times. If I'd just been honest with them, and myself, I'd have had hard times as a teen and then left to live a life for myself. Again, same scenario when I was DF'd at 25. I went back because I thought I had to, to save my two young children. My parents also said they'd only help me if I did, and I was a single mom that was only 25! I wasn't honest with them or myself, kept living my wordly life and went to be reinstated. I was still sleeping with a boyfriend, smoking and drinking at clubs when I was reinstated. I knew then the holy spirit was a figment of their imagination, but still I did what was expected.

    Neither of those examples bother me as much as the scene that replays in my mind over and over. I was trying to be as zealous and as capable as all the other pioneers in the congregation, I was about 14. In service a couple listened to my presentation patiently, but I could tell they were just waiting for a break in the flow to lay an objection on me, so I just spoke in a grand stream of words, lol, and it wasn't until the end that I have them lay on me what it was they wanted to say.

    The told me that the organization I was in was formed by people that were of other religions, and they smoked and drank and had power trips, and the set dates that came and went and were false prophets. They said that 1975, when I was just a toddler probably (they were right) that they misled many to give up their wealth, their hopes, their homes, their futures, and it was wicked and horrible. That I serve men, not God, and that I should look it up myself, that the proof is all right in our own books and history, not with apostates.

    Instead I went back to the cargroup and mocked them and their dilusion, and talked about how misled THEY are...the older ones in the car tried to quickly change the subject, or steer it differently, and I recall feeling something come over me...kind of an internal "Hey, they were WRONG...weren't they? Why are you acting like that? What am I missing?" Then I squashed it down by telling myself Satan was just getting to me, and I needed to not listen or look into it, and just go on my way. I was 14. I can't be held accountable for that, nor for being baptized later that year. It's all so pathetic.

  • St George of England
    St George of England

    Yes in 1984. I actually stopped attending the meetings for a few weeks but returned because of the effect it was having on my wife. I think it would have destroyed my parents, in-laws and other JW relations. Big mistake; I should have bit the bullet then and let nature take its course.

    George

  • Scarred for life
    Scarred for life

    I'm sorry, Heartbreaker. I'm glad you're out now.

  • life is to short
    life is to short

    The told me that the organization I was in was formed by people that were of other religions, and they smoked and drank and had power trips, and the set dates that came and went and were false prophets. They said that 1975, when I was just a toddler probably (they were right) that they misled many to give up their wealth, their hopes, their homes, their futures, and it was wicked and horrible. That I serve men, not God, and that I should look it up myself, that the proof is all right in our own books and history, not with apostates.

    I had the same thing happen to me when I was in my late teens. It was an older man who rode the bus with me to work. I would always bring my WT and Awakes with me and do the whole JW thing of being this stupid Witnesses. While this man like me. He truly cared about me now looking back. He tried and tried to reason with me until I got totally rude to him. If only I would have listened to him. I am so mad at myself over it. I was such a self righteous snot back then. Why? I had no friends in the "truth" the elders treated me like dirt. But my parents were so abusive to me and I had no where to turn. I had no one to help me. I fell like I have wasted my life.

    This religion really sucks.

    LITS

  • Heartbreaker
    Heartbreaker

    It does suck LITS, but just think we each had very similiar experiences, and we recall them now. Too bad we didn't listen then, but we still remember. May we press forwards and be that memory for someone else, whenever we can.

    I used to think that when witnessing, maybe we'd "gain them later with a seed planted". Well that shite can work both ways, I know now. I hope I plant seeds to get people thinking or wondering. I hope I live in a way that causes ones to wonder how things can still be so good, when I've left Happyville.

    And thank you Scarred for Life...I appreciate your words. :)

  • aSphereisnotaCircle
    aSphereisnotaCircle

    Instead I went back to the cargroup and mocked them and their dilusion, and talked about how misled THEY are...the older ones in the car tried to quickly change the subject, or steer it differently, and I recall feeling something come over me...kind of an internal "Hey, they were WRONG...weren't they? Why are you acting like that? What am I missing?" Then I squashed it down by telling myself Satan was just getting to me, and I needed to not listen or look into it, and just go on my way. I was 14. I can't be held accountable for that, nor for being baptized later that year. It's all so pathetic.

    There is a few strangers in my past that had the same affect on me.

    I would LOVE to see them now and tell them the impact they had on me and to thank them.

  • truthseeker
    truthseeker

    It's been interesting reading your comments. I really wish I could go back in time and make the decision to walk away. So much has happened since then.

    At that time, I still believed it was the truth, I didn't know what I did now, and that was the only thing that kept me from walking away.

    Someone build me a time machine...

  • streets76
    streets76

    I did walk away (born-in but unbaptised) in the mid-80's. I didn't give a second thought to how it would affect relations with my family JWs (turns out, not very much). Only had a few friends, and turns out they weren't much use as friends (but neither was I).

    What did I gain? A college education. Freedom from the constant end-time soap opera drama of small minds.

    Some very good sex.

    I hang around here mainly for the laughs, and to keep up on the latest new light, to see what kind of crap my brother is spewing door-to-door these days.

    And because I love you sons of bitches.

  • finallysomepride
    finallysomepride

    yes for 40 years I passed up the many oppotuneties to leave

  • blondie
    blondie

    I was inactive for 2 short periods BUT I was still a true believer and thought that just a few in the organization were out of line and would be adjusted. By the third and last time, I had made a close examination of older WTS publications and was stunned when I read the 1993 WT and the Proclaimers book re 1874. I also realized how deeply the lying and deception was in the WT organization. I have been out 10 years and counting.

    Blondie

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