Thanks so much for your thoughtful post and yes I do believe that more than anything, being able to fellowship and read experiences from other "survivors" helps tremendously. Your post is part of this helping process, even for those of us who have been around here for a while.
There is so much proof I have collected, but I can't present it here. I just wanted to let you know if it will comfort someone that you are not deemed [doomed] by god because of judgement from the Jehovahs Witnesses they can't have that authority.
Excellent point - I'm trying to help a DF'd family member understand that she is not under the authority of men. But as you know, young ones and born-ins are brainwashed to a point of thinking they deserve to be shunned by friends and family, and they believe they are not worthy of unconditional love and acceptance.