We were counselled at my daughters wedding as they were not happy with the fact that we organised disco type music that by the way was chosen carefully so as not to offend. When the sound check was tested they complained it was too loud we explained it was because they were just testing and the sound would be adjusted but the P.O. refused to pray and say a blessing over the food. My hubby was so cross he asked him to go home if he was not happy with our wedding arrangements, only one elder offered to say a blessing even my brother inlaw refused as they all wanted to suck up to the P.O.
And all because my daughter did not want barn dance music and dancing at her wedding which everyone else had to endure to please the congregation. My husband was also counselled by an elder for wearing a bow tie to our nephews wedding and having his hair too short [his hair was receding for goodness sake]. He has been counselled for not wearing a jacket on the field service even though smart with a shirt and tie in sweltering weather and not wearing a jacket to the group and kingdom hall in sweltering weather. I've been counselled for not wearing tights [panti-hose]. In the l980's we were told not to wear Jeans or trousers even casually. My hubby has even been counselled about the type of shoes he wore. He wore a smart dress flat cap for the field service and the visiting C.O. critisised him for wearing it ironically the watchtower some months later showed a brother on field service wearing one. He was also critised for wearing a woolly hat by the elders but as he was thin on top he would get very cold so they said he should wear a smart trilby. You could not make this stuff up.
How wonderful to be free LoveRosepetal