How do you help a girl having panic attacks? (page 3)

snowbird

I've had panic attacks - bad ones -and the last thing you need is someone questioning you.

Tell her to get to a doctor and eliminate all things that are causing stress.

Blessings.

Syl

Thank you everyone... I've searched the internet and found some good information as well. Yes she has issues but I guarantee no more than this Elder's Son. No one is perfect and she is the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with so the "number" of issues are really a concern. She got out of bad marriage and there was some heavy drug use. She has quit everything even weed and with out me asking. She has been pushing herself to deal with a lot of issues and she is going to be just fine. Just every couple of months she wakes up in a panic I guess. It's understandable when her like has changed so much so quickly.

I think the best thing I can do is get her to think of something else and breathe properly. I just need a plan for next time it happens.

jgnat

I wish you all the best, Cagefighter. Blondie gave the best advice. My chief concern is why she called you and not 911 when she was in the middle of a panic attack. What were you supposed to do? Run over to her place and hold her hand? Her dependence on you was misplaced, which explains why you are now scrambling to figure out how to cope the next time this happens.

She needs to be the one to seek the right kind of help and new strategies before the next panic attack strikes. You need to explain to her that you cannot be put in a situation where you are unable to help.

Broken Promises

Be careful that you don’t become her caretaker, instead of being her boyfriend.

Some guys seem to like being a girl’s saviour *shrug* I wish I could find a guy like that. Most guys run at the thought of a girl having issues.

Cagefighter

jgnat- I'll have to get back to you on that one... I'm sure it'll fly over like a lead ballon. But your right that's one way to make sure she never calls me again for nothing.

Broken- You'll find someone. I might tend to run but like I said this is someone I have been with intimately for six months now. It's a good sign that I am the first person she thinks to call. It's funny how many people here think that is a bad thing. We all need someone and we all got issues ESPECIALLY X-JWs..

JWoods

You ARE absolutely sure that this is for real, right? By that I mean that this is not some kind of head games?

The statement that you have known her for 6 months and she is just now "letting you in" is kind of troubling.

Plus the fact that she can text while being mentally incapacitated...

I have known certain women who make being in an emotional state at all times their main hobby.

Cagefighter

Yes JWoods I know those types too... There is someone for everyone is all I got to say.

JWoods

Yes JWoods I know those types too... There is someone for everyone is all I got to say.

Well, OK. This was the first panic attack you have dealt with in 6 months?

Cagefighter

No the first was about 4 months ago (long story). She was married for 8 years and is striving to be more independent and get over her childhood issues. She is doing a great job and if she freaks out and needs me in the middle of the night every once in a while it's not a problem but an honor for someone you love.

tiki

I have a serious panic disorder and have been on meds for years. Having fear instilled in me since infancy in that insane religion wrecked my brain. Your brain chemistry actually becomes altered and the only thing that can help is medication. Cognitive therapy helps some people, but really....panic attacks are horrid. You feel like you are literally about to die. You cannot breathe...different people have different symptoms, but a sense of overwhelming dread leaves most immobile.

Get your girl the help she needs....and don't waste time doing it. It is not her fault; make her realize that. If you are a diabetic, you need insulin and take it. If you have high cholesterol, you can take a statin drug to get it to a normal level. If your brain chemistry is off, there are medications that can fix it..... you have to do it!

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