Drew,
You were lucky to have a liberal brother do the funeral talk. When my father passed a couple of years ago, the brother (supposedly a very close friend of the family) agreed to read a ten paragraph eulogy that I wrote about my father. The first paragraph was a basic newspaper bio. Very brief - birth, death, married to, number of children, grandchildren, great grandchildren. Then I wrote: "That's how the local newspaper will probably describe [name]'s life of 91 years. Just statistics and a few names. But his life was far more interesting than that..."
The next ten very short paragraphs briefly described his teenaged years during the Great Depression, his brief Army service at the end of WW2 that he hated, his conversion to the JWs and his faithful service to them for over 55 years. I mentioned that he loved playing catch with his boys, how much he enjoyed his time with his grandkids, and that he spent most of his life as a mechanic, both as an occupation and as a hobby. I mentioned a couple of his favorite little quips and his self-deprecating sense of humor.
When my brother and I attended the funeral at the KH, the brother who gave the funeral talk, the very one that promised to read my brief eulogy and was supposedly close to the family did read what I wrote - BUT ONLY THE FIRST PARAGRAPH - the paragraph that was intended to show how little the newspaper would say about this man we all loved. That's all he read. He then went into his standard JW Watchtower outlined funeral speech.
I was shocked and disappointed. My brother looked at me like, "WTF was that?" It's a good thing I wasn't armed. There would have likely been blood splattered all over that stage. That guy not only lied to us, he stuck it right up our nose, probably because he knew we were both ex JWs.
After the funeral speech, one of the sisters and her husband came up to greet us. When she said, "Wasn't that a beautiful talk by Brother X?" - I said, "Maybe for you it was, but for us it was the absolute worst!" No one else came near us after that.
I was so glad to get out of the KH that day. I was physically sick over the whole thing. As it turned out, my father's newspaper bio was more extensive and better than his funeral talk.