CO picked the wrong "old lady" to say this to!

by clarity 64 Replies latest jw friends

  • compound complex
    compound complex

    Thank you, Clarity, for what you've written. Welcome, too, to JWN!

    Your comments can apply one way or another to us guys also; I'm in accord with Vampire's sentiments. Being alone is extremely difficult for all the reasons you stated and then some, especially if one had been married and then loses EVERYTHING. Even casual companionship with the opposite sex must be accomplished with discretion for those JW faders who are still married in the "eyes of the Lord."

    I'm sorry for your sadness, but your words help me carry on ...

    Love,

    CoCo

  • clarity
    clarity

    Empty inside - dear, dear lady thank you for your response and also for initial comment earlier. I am just getting the 'hang of it' so plse forgive the delay. There are so many sitting waiting their lives away!

    Cantleave - thank you for the support, yes the patronizing, the never quite fitting in anywhere, we are imprisoned ... backed into a corner with no way out ... well except maybe more mtgs more service bla bla bla!

    Justina - don't you just hate how the sisters feel they must line up with the proverbial bowl of soup for the 'newly available' bro (sometimes even before his wife is actually dead/gone) He of course gets to pick the 'very best'. Thanks for your thoughts on this!

    Vampire - wow, honey it doesn't sound like you are damaged or gay! We are socially awkward, no kidding, who wouldn't be after the emotional kicking from the sick inhibitions of the so called "leaders"! Thanks for your thoughts. Keep your chin up, there are so many of us.

    Lozhasleft - Loz so love your name. Thanks for your great news. When you find a life the whole world seems bigger and more wonderful. congrats! (darn can't stop bolding sorry)

    Palmtree67 - Thank you very much for expressing your feelings in such a nice way. Me too. She died last spring... still alone, still "faithful".

    WTwizard - thanks for being on here ... for sure it's a very small gene pool to pick from! I was thinking, if I did pass muster at harm ageddon well then, I guess we'll just have to wait for all the little 'bros' to grow up, then there will be more males to pick from!! Sick!!

    I Quit - I know, waiting, waiting - to be rescued by harm ageddon! No real home, usually a crappy little apartment, no children ... and of course no grandbabies. I was not born in so thank g*d, I have some of the above ... but can so imagine the grief and remorse of those deceived by the "don't get married, don't have children" commands of the borg! What a legacy!

    CoCo - Thank you so much for your welcome. It means a lot to me. What you say is so true and you know, even at times when you do let yourself even entertain the idea of 'getting to know' a worldly person (massive guilt aahhh)- because of the indoctrination, we're just consumed with the depressing thought that this (of course) can't really ... go anywhere ... crap! Plse do carry on CoCo, we need you.

  • sir82
    sir82

    Since this is a "melancholy" thread...how's this for sad?

    In my previous congregation, 90's & early 2000's, there was an 80+ old-timer. One of the few Rutherford era JWs left.

    Never married. Lived in the family farmhouse with his siblings, who attended some other congregation.

    Never married because his mother, on her deathbed in the 1930's or maybe early 1940's, made all her children swear to never marry "in this system of things" since Armageddon was "so close".

    The obedient children did indeed never marry.

    The old guy liked to talk to me & my wife for some reason. One day he pulled us aside in the parking lot, and showed us a faded black & white photo of himself, as a strapping handsome youngster, with his sweetheart.

    He broke off his relationship with her. To obey his mother. Who was determined to be obedient to Rutherford. Who "strongly encouraged" all single kids not to marry.

    60+ years later, this old guy still remembered what could have been, and kept the photographic evidence.

  • loosie
    loosie

    Once when I was about 22 we went on a ski trip, most attending were single., there were w few couples. One of the couples celebrated their 20 th wedding anniversary that weekend, so we all had a big dinner party. Then then dumbass couple gave speech, on how we shouldn't be in a rush to get married...that it is ok to be single as long as we love jah.

    I was thinking what an ass he was he has someone to come home to, they have each other to keep them warm. But we aren't suppossed to want to get amrried. What did he think we were there for... skiing?!?!?!

  • Scully
  • clarity
    clarity

    Sir82 - How's that for sad? Very! A faded picture, memory's ... all that's left of what could/should have been. You wake up one morning and realize you LIFE has been stolen. For whaaattt! gawd what a cult! Sad sad sad. Thanks a lot for your input and sharing your experience Sir.

    clarity

  • clarity
    clarity

    Loosie - Hi Loosie, amazing how people, secure in their positions and circumstances, look over from their Comfortable Pew ... and haven't a clue about you! Yes, what are you there for - just to sit on the sidelines and watch your youth and opportunity piss pass away? Oh don't get me started! Thanks for sharing your story with us.

    clarity

  • clarity
    clarity

    Scully, .... The Beatles, oh scully how perfect! Thank you so much, many will relate I'm sure. Seriously, I was moved to tears ... not only for lonely singles but for the pervasive loneliness throughout society, single or married. As one poster brought out, (Vampire) the loneliness in a marriage can be devastating. I don't know yet how to 'put' utube in a post, but so glad you do!

    clarity

  • cyberjesus
    cyberjesus

    Welcome!

    Yes I am against the deception the WT uses to keep people working for their book selling company. But there is nothing wrong being single. it is actually fun :-)

  • ziddina
    ziddina

    "That servant of jehovah was so lonely, that when she would hear that certain ones were giving dinner parties etc ... she would wait till dark, drive over to their house .... and park out side, just to feel close to the brothers. ..."

    Palmtree: " I think that is one of the saddest things I've ever read ...."

    Me too, but knowing me... I'd go up, knock on the door, and ask, "So, you forgot to invite me???"

    Zid

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