by compound complex 27 Replies latest jw friends
Dear recovering friends,
Lady Lee's thread on health issues and disabilities prompts this thread. Removed now from theocratic pursuits and 'pouring yourself out like a drink offering' at all costs, are you tending to your mental and physical health realistically and without feeling guilt?
Thanks,
CoCo
Yes, when i started studying with the JW's, i was already on one blood pressure pill
as i got into full swing, i had to be put on another along with that, after i left, about
6 or 7 months later i was back on one single prescription. I know now that
the stress of being told constantly that i was not doing enough, and being made to
feel guilty if i missed a meeting due to illness, they would say the same old thing, such and such
is worse off and she made it to the meeting. Just the stress from all that crap was killing me.
Yes CC - I totally relaxed my internal pace. I was always so anxious and going nowhere fast! I finally woke up and realize more and more that my life is MINE!
Thank you, wasblind abd cult classic, for responding.
Good for you! I'm able to relate absolutely to your words. I can sit and do nothing and be calm and not feel guilty - well, almost!
Takes "making the mind over" to a whole new level. One that benefits the person, not the organization.
Gratefully,
CoCo
Somehow, Coco, I just cannot envision you actually sitting down and doing nothing. You would have to have a pen or paintbrush in your hand! And even if you do sit down in a quiet place, I think your mind would still be going a mile a minute. Am I right?
Yes, Cameo. Sad but true.
I can sit doing nothing for 5 minutes. Ten tops. It's difficult. But my physical stamina is progressively diminishing, and I need to take stock and conserve energy for all those important things that remain undone.
I appreciate your asking and putting it so presciently.
CoCo
I have, but not for post leaving the WT reasons or health or that matter
I just decided about 4 years ago that there was no way i was going to get ahead, buy a house etc.
I decided to start my own business after working 40 hours a week was not making enough to get by on an leave anything left for fun. I found i could make a good income on 3 days a week work. I could make more, i just don't want to. Not only do i want my 4 day weekends for more important stuff, i resent having to give more to the tax man if i do.
If i cant be bothered working on any given day or just feel slack half way thru a day, i can stop and do it another day.
When i met my wife, we find we have the same attitude... neither of us are interested in hopping on the mouse wheel like so many others already are and busting ourselves for material gain and to serve the system like worker ants. We have just bought a cheap country house, that will cost no more than out current rent and not require us to work more either.
I stopped pushing myself because life is to short to spend doing things you dont want to do.
oz
Well put, Aussie Oz! What you say makes perfect sense.
I was all set to buy a block 10 years ago on the Gold Coast, NSW, but didn't follow through. Just as well.
I hadn't counted on getting older and tireder and poorer.
Who'd have thought ...
Thanks much, mate!
CoCo
I'm presently working on eliminating stress, but it probably won't happen overnight. Also, trying to make life simpler and discarding a lot of accumulated junk, taking time to read and write a little, and drinking a cup of coffee with the paper each morning, something I enjoy.
Outaervice
@CoCo... right now i am really thankful the purchase of the block fell through. I initialy felt that this was the only way to gain financial independance for retirement. I wasn't really looking forward to a 10 year slog building a house and everything though. We just bought the cheap country property and there will be a world of difference between building and tarting up an old place!
@outaservice...That is a great way to get change going! One key thing i did was divest myself of any debt. It meant selling my dream car i restored but boy, cutting back really was worth it.
enjoy that coffee!
oz
