Worldly Husbands

by Frenchy 27 Replies latest jw friends

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  Frenchy

  Nelly: “if she missed any meetings because of hubbies no one was going to berate her over it, if she had to cook turkey for dinner at christmas she was just being wife in subjection,”

  Yes, that has been more of my experience with these women. They want an ‘excuse’ to be able to do things they would not be able to do with JW husbands. When they miss a meeting it was ‘that worldly man’ who was responsible. The Christmas tree ‘was his idea and I have to do what he says’. Of course in the cases I knew, the guy is totally hen-pecked and completely under the thumb of the wife. It was amusing to hear the talk about how she got her way with everything except those things she really didn’t want to do and it was then she pulled the ‘submission’ rabbit out of her hat.

  Waiting: “Not all men are louses. ”

  Thanks.

  ::: But they also have FREEDOM away from the jw's. What they want to read, watch, speak about. ::: -waiting

  I agree and I think that these women are (even if only subconsciously) very grateful to have a ‘non-believer’ that permits them this freedom.

  Bobsgirl: Honey, your husband is a lucky man!
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  nelly136

  Way to go bobsg,
  quite frankly there was little to no choice
  at my cong, you had the 'suitables' who knew they
  had the pick of anyone they cast an eye on and acted like they
  were doing any perspective girlie a favour by deigning to
  breathe in their direction
  or the geekboy 90 hours a month elder licker from hell.
  anyone who was vaguely interesting usually came under your
  parents heading of spiritually weak...dont go there
  The son in law of my fathers dreams had underarm sweat marks
  and a kiss that a car wash would have been proud of.
  The very thought of marrying someone who had absolutely no idea
  of anything in the nuptials department and was going to turn into
  another of the power freaks the other jw wives had been blessed with
  scared me shitless.
  nelly
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  Richie

  Waiting...
  I fully agree with your observation; also the last comments from Frenchy made perfect sense why it's beneficial to have a non-witness husband. May I add a tiny little thing...? Perhaps the (more exciting) sex life may also be a factor when married to a non-witness mate - well, I'll leave that to you to figure this one out LOL...

  Richie :*)
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  VeniceIT

  hahha WOW Bobsgirl I'm SOOO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!!

  I was thinking that one thing if the non-jw guy became a JW then he'd learn the whole headship thing. That could be a deterent to many a JW woman!

  Ven

  "Injustice will continue until those who are not affected by it are as outraged as those who are."
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  Frenchy

  Bobsgirl: What a piece of inspiration! Well done! This should be printed out and saved.
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  waiting

  Howdy Frenchy!

  Not all men are louses. - waiting

  Thanks. - frenchy

  LOL! I was trying to be nice! Larc's thread seemed to give the impression that jw men were users of women. They certainly aren't the only ones wanting to have an affair! Like all worldly men are saints!

  I was just commenting that not all men were users/louses. Some men were actually ok. I personally think that's a fair statement, eh?

  Of course, I had a lousy father, lousy brother, lousy first husband, met some lousy sexually interested brothers.......so until I met my second husband.....I probably would have left out my above quote.

  Now, primarily because of being around him for 20 years, I've been able to see men as somewhat average, like women. Of course, he says that almost all males are in it for the sex, no matter what they're in to.

  Go figure.

  waiting
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  LB

  For the couple's I know I think the main reason to have a worldly spouse, either male or female is that there is a lot less pressure to attend meetings. No guilt at home.

  
  Never Squat With Yer Spurs On
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  Frenchy

  Hello, waiting.

  "I've been able to see men as somewhat average, like women. Of course, he says that almost all males are in it for the sex, no matter what they're in to."

  Well I suppose it's better being 'average' than a 'louse'! LOL!
  Your husband is right about what (most) males are 'in it for'.
  Hey, it's the nature of the beast!
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  BluesBrother

  Just some thoughts;

  My dad was a non believer,they married long before Mum "Got the Truth" I know that she would have loved him to join us in it. She was sincere.

  I recall over the years, sister A , husband eventually studied,baptised , but a bit later smoked again and was disF. From what A said they were happier before hand and this gave him peace and quiete on Tuesday and Thusday nights when she was out.

  Sis. J married out of the T. but he came in and she spends the nexy 25 years moaning because he is not as much fun as he was .

  Sis.T used to often tell us that she was looking forward to getting a better husband in the New Order when the present unbeliever had perished

  I am sure there is some mileage in the premise that some people dont always want to have to share more with the husband, and enjoy an escape to the Hall

  In contrast - Nice one Bobsgirl pleased to hear it;)
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  William Penwell

  Two points that have been made here 1. The bottom line is that its money that talks and which JW man can provide materially on a janitors salary. Most of the JW sisters will tell you money is not important but when it comes down to it yes that is important to them.

  2. Most JW men if they have been brought up as a JW are lacking social skills. I remember when I was a teenager their was a few guys my age that were not raised as a JW's and just being converted. Well the majority of us that were raised as a JW were not a match socially to these outsiders. The sad thing is it has taken me 40 years to develop social skills but it was only after I pulled away from the Borg. I still have some insecurity but it is a lot better.

  Also another point with me is that most JW sisters want to change you tight away. They can't just except you for who you are. I am sure it goes the other way because when I was still in the Borg I would be very judgmental and opinionated. It has taken me years to learn what the word unconditional love means.

  Will

  "I am quite sure now that often, very often, in matters concerning religion and politics a man's reasoning powers are not above the monkey's."
  Mark Twain