Lets think - welcome to the JWN board.
As you can imagine we can relate to your experience.
I too was an elder - resigned Oct 2007 due to the question box article in the Sept 2007 KM - look it up - you will understand. That was the final blow for me.
Original plan was to keep going to meetings - but I could'nt do it - once I could see/hear the hypocricy and lies the meetings became unbearable. My wife followed me out 6 months later - woo hoo!
But it is tricky - family ties and all that.
Anyway - all the best for the future - and keep your faith in God.
The Scotsman