Before I tell you my story I just want to say thank you to everyone on this forum for their sometimes funny,and sometimes sad, and sometimes very thought provoking posts, it has helped me a lot.
My family, which consists of a younger brother and a younger sister and my parents. We began studying with the JW's as a family (mother's insistence) in the mid 1980's.
I was then 13, my sister 12, my brother 7, my mother thought she found the answer to all life's problems and became fully brainwashed, and hence if we wanted to be a happy family we had to all become JW's, and so because we were young and mainly to keep our mother happy we all became JW'S.
All I can say is my parents life might have been, happier but mine was far from happy. I left home as soon as I could I was 16.
My sister at 18 got married to a Jw, and they bought a house and settled in to married life, when my sister had her first child at 19 her son was 6 weeks old when my parents moved into their home for a few weeks, while their new home was ready to move into.
During their stay in my sisters home they all got on really well despite a small house and no room to move. My sister was really pleased that her new husband and her mam were getting on well, she could often hear them laughing, while she was cooking the tea or feeding the baby.
Then 8 weeks later my sister's whole life was blown apart. My sister at 19 was brought before 3 elders in a small room at the kingdom hall, she was terrified, and did not know what was going on. They started to ask her questions about her husband and her mam, and then asked if she suffered headaches a lot. My sister still did not know why they were asking these questions and began to cry, no one comforted her. eventually they told my sister that her husband and her mam had slept together, and that her mam had come forward and confessed and showed repentance.
My sister's husband and my mam was never DFD. My so called strict JW'S mother told my sister that she should take comfort that at least her husband had slept with her and not a complete stranger.
My mother also told my sister that her husband had raped her. My sister knew that this was not true because the affair went on for 6 weeks.
All this happened 24 years ago. My sister and her husband had 2 more children but the marriage lasted for a few years and eventually they divorced.
My mother and my sister have not really spoken to each other since. My sister has not been a JW for 20 years, and also my brother.
What really gets to me is my mam who is still a JW only 2 weeks ago told my brother who has never known what happened, the story of her being raped by my sister's ex husband.
This has affected my sister all her life, and I try to help her the best way I can. There is two things I dont get One if my mam was raped and apparently she has told the elders this, then why did they not go to the police?
Two if the elders did not believe my mam ( because my sisters ex was never dfd) then why is my mam still allowed to go around telling people that she was raped.
I think this is so wrong and she should be stopped from doing this