Well it is confirmed ...I am invisible

by troubled mind 20 Replies latest social current

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  troubled mind

  My husband and I just went to Subway for lunch . We park right next to the truck of the Elder that came questioning me earlier this summer . As we walk in the door , he is there holding it open for another customer . As we enter he looks over me and says Hi to my husband ....then a few seconds later his wife comes around the corner and says "OH HI (stating my husbands name and clearly not saying mine ) Well maybe he is just making sure he is following the cease contact letter to it's fullest extent !

  Then their daughter was the girl that had to wait on us ...she was nice ,but clearly we are just another customer now ......

  When we sat down to eat my husband had a smirk on his face ,I said , "What .....you laughing because I am invisible now ??" ,

  ' YEP '.....he says (he can be insensitive )

  Should I remind him it is his fault he didn't keep his wife in submission ???
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  ziddina

  Aw, Troubled Mind, honey, you're not invisible...

  I can see you!!!

  Zid
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  serenitynow!

  Why didn't your husband point out to them that they were being rude to his wife? I'm not married but if I was somewhere with say, my sister and a mutual acquaintance spoke to me and pointedly ignored her, that would be a problem, I would definitely speak up and point it out. I'd be like "you shun my sister you can shun me too." She's the closest person in the world to me. That's just my opinion though.

  Also even if those people weren't acquainted with both of you, to encounter one person you know in a group, and not the others is very rude.
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  sir82

  Congratulations, you are in good company.

  For the JWs, Jesus is also "invisibly present".
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  troubled mind

  thanks zid .....but that is frightening let me put something over that skype camera ....I don't have any make-up on right now

  It isn't that big of a deal , just annoying how brain dead they are and over righteous ...
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  troubled mind

  I agree serenitynow it was rude, and it would have been nice to have him point that out to them ,alas that isn't my life ..

  Actually it probably caught my husband off guard ,this is the first time he has experienced the shunning I get all the time . I have told him it has been going on for quite a long time to me .

  Whenever the witnesses see me at the store or around town they run the other way . Most of the time people still say hi to him so he doesn't really get how crappy it feels , now maybe he will think about it and the next time he will speak up for me .....I can at least hope so

  He loves being the 'poor' husband married to the wicked woman
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  ziddina

  LOL, Troubled Mind!!!

  I see you "psychically" - in other words, I see your 'spirit' - your determination, your intelligence, your tenacity, your kindness, your wit...

  And it's SPARKLY...!!!

  Zid
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  serenitynow!

  troubled mind, as my therapist would advise, you really need to let him know how that makes you feel- these encounters with the JWs. You might think that he ought to know that their (JWs) behaviour, and his lack of defending you would make you feel, but what I have come to understand is that unless you verbalize how something makes you feel, and what you want the person to do differently, you will never get your needs met.

  Just always remember, your feelings are valid; don't be afraid to verbalize them.
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  wasblind

  Troubled Mind,

  get you a T-shirt that says: "I'm not invisible to the one who counts"
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  OnTheWayOut

  What's this post about? I don't see the first post nor who posted it. Just kidding.

  Your husband may think it's all funny, but this isn't like your slip is showing or there was something green in your teeth when you were interviewed on the local news. This is very serious to you. If he cannot stick up for you, he should at least tell others that he is with you right now and doesn't wish to talk.