Willie Nelson is not 85. I think he's more like 77. Splitting hairs, I know.
Sometimes women want more...
by FlyingHighNow 44 Replies latest social relationships
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Violia
Leonard Cohen is IMHO the sexist man alive and he's 77 and has a 49 yr old girlfriend. If you have ever heard him sing, you will know why women love him.
I've known men in their late 60's who were still very sexually active and attractive, who wanted women in their own age but said that active , attractive women in that age group were in short supply.
I think women / men can be wanting sex ( horny) but may have let themselves go to the point they no longer are attractive to their partner. It may not be lack of interest on the partners's side , it may be you really that one or both have "let themselves go". I always note when I lose some weight and take extra effort in my appearnace , I get rewarded for it. :)>
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FlyingHighNow
Awww, Lou. Nature plays such cruel tricks as we age.
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FlyingHighNow
Viola, my size has never stopped attractive men from being interested in me. I'd say the most interesting and handsome guys have come along since I got over 40 and no longer am anywhere close to my ideal weight. I think weight and not being 20 something can screen out guys who are narrow in their view of what is attractive. And that is an absolutely positive side affect.
A partner who has let herself go can be one cause of lack of interest f'sho. A partner who has become cranky, moody, critical could be another cause. There are other important issues raised in the article. Perhaps the husband or boyfriend still finds his love attractive, but has been through a bankruptcy or is suffering from depression. Maybe he has low testosterone. There is hope if both partners understand what's going on and work together to remedy the situation.
If boredom is the issue, that could be addressed as well. And to that I post this song:
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Violia
I love that song.. It is so true boredom can be a problem is a long term relationship. In the song they still loved each other , they had forgotten why how special they were. Relationships go through stages and keeping that spark going is not always easy. Some people are addicted to that "new" relationship high. They can be in a relationship only so long and when the excitment wears off they start looking for that excitment again.
Overweight is one thing but serious weight gain is another. 10-20 pounds is a common weight gain as we get older. Over 30 pounds and your health is at risk and your partner may be really turned off. That does not mean he /she does not love you but it says something about you if you do not care enough to keep your appearance up.( barring circumstances over which you have no control, illness etc)
A friend once said " you know since I have lost 20 pounds Bob is wanting sex all the itme. I did not know that was so important to him" .
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St George of England
I've known men in their late 60's who were still very sexually active
Phewww that's a relief then
George (rapidly heading that way!)
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metatron
I think that (Dr.) Gail Saltz takes a good photo.
I only wish I could spend some time with her to see if I could get her to lift her other eyebrow.
metatron
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Violia
OK St.George, I get it .lol
there is life after 60.
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FlyingHighNow
I think that (Dr.) Gail Saltz takes a good photo. I only wish I could spend some time with her to see if I could get her to lift her other eyebrow. metatron
This is a very cute.
Chemistry can overcome a larger weight gain. To me, if over 20-30 lbs makes that big a difference, then it usually means one or more of the other parts of the relationship, such as chemistry, truly liking each other, good communication, common interests, ebullient joy and laughter are either missing or anemic. I'm not going to marry someone, where the mutual like between us isn't so great that we'd still want each other badly even if the other's face was melted off. I don't need a man to look good to everyone else. What matters most is that I am attracted to who he is and there is commonality, good communication, similar beliefs and values, good levels of chemistry and it doesn't hurt if he can kiss very well....or learn to, I'm willing to give lessons. And he's gotta feel the same way about me. You got all that and sex or lack of sex isn't ever going to be a deal breaker.
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White Dove
I meant "let themselves go" more as in good hygene is absent and all their teeth are partially rotted and some missing.
You just can't kiss that. Well, I can't kiss that.
Then there is the B.O.
If the weight is too heavy, forget the man on being on top. I like to breathe and not get squished.
See, letting one's self go can be very gross.