Hi sweetbaby
I admired your honesty in realising it is a lack of faith issue.
Although wouldn't it have been easier to simply DA both yourselves? rather than go through a process that is meant to hopefully draw people back from an edge? an edge you and your wife had already stepped over?
2 Thessalonians 3:14
If anyone does not obey our instruction in this letter, take special note of him. Do not associate with him, in order that he may feel ashamed.
It is at times like this we realise being a Christian is a life-commitment rather than just a hobby and you are starting a new life completely of your own choice and that you recognise this is to be admired.
Hebrews 11:6
And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.