So AGuest what do you do beyond what any other descent person does to be a wheat. You pray, sing hymms, evangelize, hold a job, are honest, what else.
The items you mention does not constitute one being "wheat", dear designs (peace to you!). Those are things "desirable" to the people of this world (and certain countries/societies/cultures within it). One is "wheat" because one is a "seed"... of the Woman, "Jerusalem Above". (Revelation 12:17; Galatians 4:21-28)
The Most Holy One of Israel is a cultivator... a gardener... a sower of seed (Genesis 2:8; John 15:1)... and thus, so is His Son, the One who learned from Him (Matthew 13:37). And He sowed seed in the physical realm (the term "founding of the world" comes from the Greek words "katabole" and "kosmos" and literally translates to "throwing down of the seed... in the world/universe" - Matthew 13:35; 25:34; John 17:24; 1 Peter 1:20; Revelation 13:8) through that Son. Such seed (those sown by God through Christ) are the "wheat."
That seed must survive, however, and come to full "ripeness" in order to be properly "harvested." Unfortunately, not all do so survive. (Matthew 13:3-8, 18-30, 37-42) The issue for the "wheat", then, is not how to BE one... but how to SURVIVE as one... and not be eaten up, scorched and withered, or choked off.
One does this by showing himself/herself to have been "sown" on "fine" soil. How? Certainly NOT by making a bunch of disciples (and certainly not by making disciples of men/religion, etc.). This is a false teaching of religion. True, the apostles were sent out to make disciples... but that doesn't prove that they are "wheat" sown on "fine" soil. One proves oneself to be THAT "wheat"... by "producing"... fruit. The "fruit" of God's spirit. (Matthew 13:23)
They produce this "fruit" by submitting to the "pruning" done by God, the TRUE Cultivator, by submitting to the pruning done by His Son, Christ, the One He taught... appointed... and assigned... to handle that job for Him. Because proper pruning is what allows the production of even MORE fruit. (John 15:1) Christ does this by "subduing" such ones... through teaching THEM to be mild-tempered, merciful, pure in heart, peaceable... and things like these. (Psalm 110:2; Matthew 5:5, 7, 8, 9)
So, while ALL of the "wheat" HEAR... all do not survive. And, of course, not all of the "seed" sown... is "wheat." Only that seed which is of the Woman. The others... are the "weeds."
Actually, 'weeds' ARE beneficial.
I am glad you put the word "weeds" in quotes, dear Heaven (peace to you!), because you are right: some "weeds" are quite beneficial. For example, canabais/hemp. Some consider that a "weed". Indeed, that is it's common name. BUT... that plant has more benefits that almost every other plant out there. It can be ingested as well as provide clothing and other useful items. Most of the medicines (in fact, I think I read somewhere that ALL of the medicines - ) we use come from plants, some that are labeled "weeds" by those who don't know their properties and value.
In the parable, however (and sometimes in the physical world), a "weed" really is just that: an undesirable plant, good for nothing but "choking" the desirable, beneficial... and nutritious plants (for example, "wheat"... as well as your dandelion... and things like poke, and a number of other plants that we can live on, that ARE beneficial to us)... off. Ultimately killing them. Which is why weeding a garden is beneficial.
Because WE call it a "weed", however, does not make it so. In the parable... a weed really is a weed: a plant of no benefit. It is a major product of the "cursed" earth.
I hope this helps and bid you both peace!
A slave of Christ,
SA