I posted this topic:
My relationship with my parents have stayed strained. My mother said that I should have known that my family and I were invited even though she didn't formally extend an invite. I refused to believe her because I know she did it because of the hatred she has for my husband.
Had a run-in with her about a month ago about my husband...nothing has changed, she still hates my husband, believes he's faking his illness, and as a result really has nothing to do with my kids (my kids don't ask about my parents). My mother said with a smile on her face (picture the Cheshire Cat) that I was in denial about my husband. I shot back that I thought she was taking perverse pleasure in the current difficulties in my life.
The last time my mother saw me she said that no one loves me more than her and my father (yeah the one who calls my family and I "you people" with a sneer in his voice). I don't need that kind of love, it's soul draining and mind killing. There's no way in hell I would throw over my husband to get back in my parents good graces. I'm not that crazy.
My husband has blocked every phone number my parents have so they can't call me. Hubby got tired of how talking to my parents would affect me to the negative (kinda like the bucket thing FHN).
This year my family and I will spend Thanksgiving with a dear friend. Someone I can truely say loves me, my husband, and my kids.
I have no idea what my parents are doing.