There could be such chapters as
1 How to raise children in the "truth" without a husband.
2 How to not feel hurt when your husband ignores you during the meetings and talks to everyone else.
3 How to handle your husband rushing with anther elder off to be with some poor depressed sister or family night after night when you are depressed yourself.
4 What to do with yourself when you husband has talks out and he is busy gabbing with the other elders and you are standing alone watching the sisters stare but never coming over to talk to you as you stand there stupidly.
5 How to handle the rude phone calls of members of the hall demanding your husband come over RIGHT NOW!
6 How to explain to your children why their father is helping other families and has no time to spend with them.
7 How to explain to your children that a quick build is more important than they are.
8 How to explain to neighbors and coworkers why your husband is always busy with the congregation and can never help you around the house.
My husband and I were talking the other day and he brought up again that the wives of elders should consider the cost of marring an elder.
I never knew before we were married what it was truly like. When we dated we had time together. After the wedding it all changed. He became different. It was like I was invisible to him and my feelings went out the window, but the feelings of the other sisters were very important to him. Just one example was letting out car run for an hour or more to keep them warm while he was on a call, yet I would sit in the same cold car for hours while he had elders meetings. We had no money and it hurt that he was so concerned for these woman who never gave us a dime for gas money.
The hurt goes on and on being an elders wife.
I do not understand the sisters who want their husband to be an elder. I never got any joy out of it.
LITS