While in, did you ever rationalize questionable behavior, entertainment, even sin as justifide?

by miseryloveselders 22 Replies latest jw friends

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  jamiebowers

  My dear, you really need to talk one on one with SD-7. He can help you through this. Your post is very interesting. Can you answer one question? Why is that you feel you have to rationalize something that comes naturally? You're a young man, she's a young woman, and there's obviously an attraction. Stop penalizing yourself for being human. And if you believe in the Bible, follow it and not the Watchtower. There's a lot of space between Watchtower rules and Bible principles.

  Please don't forget that one of the nastiest things the Watchtower does is turn a person's body against him/her self.
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  dssynergy

  MLE,

  I hear ya. In the same boat. I'm fading, but I understand everything that you said. Yes, I justify my actions. Right now I'm of the mind set it is none of their damn business. I tried it their way (no dating, no sex, blah blah blah) now I'm going to live like a regular person and see how that goes. I bet I'm happier, more content and less suicidal. :-)
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  clearpoison

  First of all DM forever. Me feelings about this are well described in their relatively new song nothing's impossible

  Just give me a reason, some kind of sign
  I'll need a miracle to help me this time
  I heard what you said, and I feel the same
  I know in my heart that I'll have to change
  
  My years long struggle with myself gave my insight that if you really, really want to keep with JW religion there is no middleway. You either accept their moral codec or you create your own. Here is difference though, do my giving in to sin mean that I break against god's codec or against organisation's codec. My god given conscience have not given me bad feelings about many things that are considered suspicious by my dear friends in congregation. I think this should have happened if I had loyalty for the organisation and it's rules as such.

  In a way it's a simple thing but at the same time very difficult. Can you really be part of it, if you do not want to go by their book, follow the rules associated with membership. On the other hand, if your conscience allows you to happily follow the membership rules, why wouldn't you be part of it. This is very personal decision indeed.

  I know in my heart that I'll have to change
  Even the stars look brighter tonight
  Nothing's impossible

  CP