I am new here too! (page 4)

Snoozy

Welcome to the board..and congratulations on seeing the real light.

I enjoyed reading about your exit and am looking forward to hearing more.

How did you find this board ? I amalways curious how new ones locate it. i ahve been here so long I can't even remember if I did a search or if someone on another board (another ex JW board) recommended it.

I do know that my daughter was the one that did a search on the witnesses and found a ex witness site and told me about it. I was all excited and couldn't wait to read and post there with others that had been through what I had..That board has been closed for a few years now .

Anyway, I ramble on.

Again, Welcome..

Snoozy ( The Great Grandma on the board)

wobble

Big WARM WELCOME NVR2L8 !

Your experience is so similar to my own, I was born in (1950) I served as MS, never Elder, we married when I was 20 and are still together. (Just, tee hee).

My wife ,(who was born in too), at the time when I left in early 2008, had been inactive as to FS for some years, but made it to some meetings, less and less as time went on, I more often than not went alone.

She was happy to leave with me, but has clung on to some fear that the WT may be right about something, like maybe Armageddon or something, she is gradually getting over those baseless feelings.

You said that it is your fault that you have to miss your dear wife's company when she goes to Meetings etc. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.

The WT/GB has forced you to leave because they do not teach the truth, that is not your fault.

I do hope that, in time, your wife responds to your love, and leaves too.

Keep on assuring her that you love her, and make your times together really happy ones, the contrast with the meetings can be a big push to help her out.

Best wishes, and you are right, it is NVR2L8 !

BabaYaga

Hello and welcome, Never!

Great introduction story. You said

Research for a public talk is also what put me on the path that lead me here!

What a great statement, and I'm sure you are not alone in that. Others have found their way here attempting to "prove" a WT point to a householder or study.

I am so glad to hear you and your wife are traveling and enjoying each other's company.

Agreed... read the books by Ray Franz (first "Crisis of Conscience") AND the cult recovery books by Steven Hassan ("Combatting Cult Mind Control" and "Releasing the Bonds".) They help immensely.

Love,
Baba.

Hadit

Welcome NVR2L8! Thank you for sharing your story!

I wish you all the best!

Hadit

dozy

Thanks for sharing - good story.

Good for you for having the integrity to leave after 50 years. Can't have been easy for you.

Ancientofdays

WELCOME

You remind me a lot my own experience.
When I jumped down from WTS in 2006/2007 I was quite sure my wife could follow me, due to strong evidence of WTS lies and fallacies.

Over 2 years of verbal fight and disagreenment, and then we stop.
She knows I'm right on WTS, but she NEED to believe something.
I know she has no resource for a complete review of her system of belief. social and family relationship (all of her family are JWs in very well standing).

All the best for your trip

lifelong humanist

A big, warm, Scottish welcome NVR2L8.

Thanks for posting your story. It was a good read, and I enjoyed it.

I was a third generation born-in, baptised at 15 or 16 (can't remember exactly), married my still-in wife in 1971. I was then still 19, she was 20. We celebrated our 39th anniversary in 2010. I was an MS, then elder, regular pioneer, etc. Never gave talks at any assemblies as I refused to shave my beard off, much to the continual annoyance of the CO and DO. I suppose I've always been a bit of a rebel at heart. Had a great laugh that I was only permitted to go out to give public talks at congregations that had a beard tolerance!

DAd myself in 2003 - having researched the WTB&TS I realized that I was in a nasty cult. Probably a lot of this started due to my learning about critcal thinking ability while studying for an MBA (Marketing) degree in 1994/5. My feelings of guilt were huge for being such a complete fool to have been so stupid to have been conned by the WT, and corrupted our 4 sons with the same nonsense. Fortunately our 4 sons woke up even sooner than me, and are all well out of the cult, living good, productive lives. Only my wife clings on, however tenuously. It is still really difficult to realize that she is just 'trapped in the mind-control world of JWs'. I live in hope - maybe one day, she'll join me and discover freedom, and the real responsibility of being a decent human without the need for any god or religion.

lifelong humanist

nancy drew

glad your her with us

OnTheWayOut

Thanks for sharing your story in such details. The 1995 change in "generation" disturbed me and I didn't fully wake up for another decade. Still, the 2008 flip of "generation" from "wicked" to "anointed" would have caused me to walk out the door if I were still there. 2010's adjustment is laughable and I can remember my mother trying to explain it before she simply gave up.

I am glad that your wake up, once it happened, was quick.

Franklin Massey

Welcome. I'm new here too. Keep sharing your thoughts, feelings, and questions. This is a good place to work out some of the issues that you may not be able to discuss with JW friends and family.

You mentioned that the brother who had the "Overlapping Generations" talk at your DC sounded like he was trying to convince himself. Same thing happened at my DC. It was embarassing. It went right over most people's heads. Since the DC, I've noticed that the ones that tried to jump on the wagon and learn the new light sound ridiculous when they attempt to explain it.

About your wife...it seems you two have a strong foundation and have lived a good life together. This new circumstance may be a challenge but hang in there and be the most loving husband you can be. Remember that your wife is only doing what she has been told is right, which is, when things get tough, throw yourself into spiritual activity and wait for the blessings to make things better.

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