Why Women Love Jerks (page 6)

PSacramento

I worked as a bouncer for a few years in both the night club environment and the strip club one and I got to see the reality of the "bad boys" on a ""daily basis".

The true "bad boys" are the ones that you don't knwo they are, but their ladies do.

The loud and typical "jerk bad boys" are the ones that everyone knows who they are because they do everything to make it clear.

The typically date girls ( not women) with self-esteem issues who truly believe that don't deserve better and that are drama queens getting themselves into trouble and having thier "bad boy" fight for them.

Countless times I have had to escort these "individuals" out, usually in a semi-concious state or from the bottom of the stairs.

The "jersey shore" of bad boys, LOL !

TD

When a man talks about "Bad boy," "Jerk," "Cad" etc. verses "Nice guy" he's not talking about "Masculine" versus "Effeminate," "Real man" verse "Little Boy," "Tough guy" vs. "Sissy." We understand why a woman wouldn't want a sissy little boy. We don't respect that in other men ourselves.

We're talking about the Bully, the Loud Mouth, the Manipulative Shameless Liar, the Selfish Bastard, the Narcissist, the User.

One of the vilest jerks I've ever known in my entire life enjoyed firing employees in the most public, humiliating way possible so much that it was the high point of his day when he got to do it. Every single male that ever met this man absolutely despised him in a matter of days at most. Often it was instant.

He claims that when he was 24 he slept with every single woman in his entire apartment complex over the course of one summer. He's quite proud of it. Even now, women crane their necks so hard in his direction that they trip over things and walk smack into glass doors around him. I've seen it happen with my own eyes and were it not for that fact, I'd think he was lying. But maybe he's telling the truth.

My wife described him as "Very charming" the first time she met him. There is something that she saw in this man that I'm completely unable to perceive myself. All I can see is the ugliness.

PSacramento

TD makes a spot on observation, one that I have seen myself over the years.

I had a TKD instructor that was one of the most vile men I have ever known, they way he objectified women was quite disturbing but every women he met said the samething: Charming, confident, cocky, "bad boy", uncompromising.

snowbird

Seems that most pro footballers fit the above assessments.

Syl

dinah

Arg, narcissistic is not the same. I've known guys like that. They put off a different vibe. But the whole narcissistic thing can go both ways, he will be sickeninly good, or awfully bad.

Women can be narcissistic too. I know I'm spelling that wrong. I once had a guy tell me I was a lesbian because I wouldn't go out with him when I was 17. That dude was just a dick.

The Finger

A christian is supposed to turn the other cheek. The last shall be first. ect.

The Alpha male in the animal kingdom is arrogant and eats first. Many men who are arrogant have fine looking women on there arm.

Can a true christian be arrogant and still be christian. Humbleness and modesty are the values of christian men are they not? Do most women look for humble modest men?

As for "the Finger." There is a specific reason for me being "the Finger" it's rather silly

snowbird

I know I'm spelling that wrong.

No, you're not.

Syl

PSacramento

Can a true christian be arrogant and still be christian. Humbleness and modesty are the values of christian men are they not? Do most women look for humble modest men?

Most people don't understand that it takes far more cojones to be humble than arrogant.

As for "the Finger." There is a specific reason for me being "the Finger" it's rather silly

pointing the way to the moon are you?

FlyingHighNow

We're talking about the Bully, the Loud Mouth, the Manipulative Shameless Liar, the Selfish Bastard, the Narcissist, the User.

When I say a real man, I mean a mature, grown up man with emotional intelligence, gumption and a backbone. A guy like this can be tender, too.

Band on the Run

I grew up severely abused by my JW father. Abuse is comfortable. Altho my mind has a clear standard of no losers, I feel I can't do better on a very deep level. I've seen men who dated bizarre women. Decent men who could have had any woman and, of course, women dating Manson types. Arrogance is confused with confidence. On the hand, wimpy men who aren't assertive and don't have a strong personality scare me even more. I feel they will leash the life out of me. The Finkler Question which won the Man Booker prize has such a character.

I find a lot of aggresion barely disguised in dating. When a decent man with impeccable credentials asked me out, I freaked! It was all I ever wanted and I still freaked. Now I fear repeating my error.

Reading the lit is helpful but the forces are so strong. I used to want an Indian chief, tall, wealthy, supportive. Now I've matured to character, integrity, and niceness as good virtues.

Culture makes jerks seductive. I watch a lot of classic films and even 50s TV. Times have improved. Desi could never spank Lucy today. The entire network would go down. I have my degree, my profession, my apt. my linens, my china and crystal. Men are no longer a dept. store.

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