Good luck.
I recall how anxious I was when I first went to visit my (then) JW parents, after I DA'd myself. I had no idea what would happen.
wish me luck visiting my JW mum today
by nugget 19 Replies latest social family
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nugget
Thank you all for you good wishes today. The visit went well, we took flowers and wished her well with her bad back and she happily talked to us all. We talked about my university course and the children and my Dad's health and everything was relaxed.
The elders apparently have already visited as expected but we did not discuss what they said. At the end of it all it is what it is and with no pressure from my Dad to support the shunning strategy there is little they can do to influence things. My mum has asked that we not discuss our religious differences and we have respected that so despite a passing reference to my cyber stalker we did not discuss the df'ing at all. What has helped is that I have been able to talk about my concerns in the past so she knows where I stand and why so we would only be going over old ground anyway.
It was also my Dad's birthday this weekend so we had cake and candles for him, last year my mum was very uncomfortable with my daughter's birthday cake but seemed much more relaxed today. It was a positive day and I am grateful for it.
What is so good about the board is that you know that there is support here and whether the visit had gone well or badly you guys would be there thank you.
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jookbeard
sounds as well as it could have gone, your father never been a Dub? always makes me sick when they make these ridiculous conditions attached to any relationship, what will happen if religious issues are discussed? a bolt of lightening will come down from the heavens?
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Good Luck
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nugget
My Dad was never a witness and has always been a bit ambivalent about the witnesses. He has been very supportive ringing every day during the height of the crisis to check we were all ok. He has always tried to mitigate the affects of the society and will not tolerate shunning in his home. Good for him with most of us out from cult control.
He asked today if my older sister had contacted me and sadly I had to say no. She is not in a position to go against the society, she is the wife of an elder and her husband would not allow it. She will tow the party line whatever happens.
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Lozhasleft
I'm so glad you have your dad to balance things at home for you Nugget. Good too that it went well with your mum. Things are better than the WTBS would have designed in these circs...so thats a plus...
Loz x
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VampireDCLXV
I'm glad things went relatively well for you, nugget. Skirting the subject of religion altogether around JW family is about the best anyone can do. I'm so sorry that you might never see your sister again. There might be a chance, though, that this could wake her up too. I wish you and cantleave the best...
V665
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Ding
Glad to hear that things went so well.
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nolongerwaiting
I'm glad that it went well!
NLW's wife
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GrandmaJones
I am so happy for you that it went so well!
