by skeeter1 17 Replies latest jw experiences
What is it with the witness habit of third party introductions? No-one at the Kingdom Hall tells me directly that they "miss me". They ask my husband. The truth is they want my JW hubby to feel guilty that I am not there.
I would be tempted to say, "Who is this woman and why is she so keen to meet me? Have her call herself and explain it."
Simply say, "I'm never comfortable around supertitious people who want to sell me something invisible."
I agree with JGnat, keep asking why!
Why does this stranger want to meet me?
Why are you trying to set up a play date for me?
Ask them, "Is this about Amway? Because it sounds like Amway. Thats how they get you, they pretend to be your friend so they can hard sell you. Is it about another MLM program? No? Then start making some sense here, tell me what the real motivation is here! You seem to have some kind of ulterior motive, and I would like to know what it is."
I usually get this problem where I work. As I don't have family in, I don't get hounded at home. But every so often a witless will show up at work and ambush me. I know they are there to hound me into the boasting sessions. And I know it will simply waste my time, which I am supposed to be using to work, without doing anything of comparable value in exchange.
So, I usually put a stop loss on it. When I see a witless I know is going to waste hours of my work time hounding me to the boasting sessions, I simply threaten that I will have to put higher price tags on everything to pay for the person that will have to do what I couldn't get to because of their wasting my work time (and that those price tags could be 30 or more digits long). That usually does the job, because they don't want to pay for an unsuccessful attempt to get me to the Kingdumb Hell with prices that are going to make it harder for them to do their own field circus.
Well, there is a very simple remedy for that: Just ask what it is in their character that they think it neccessary to arrange for all kinds of trivialities that the said person can do perfectly well himself. Or short: who made you an intercessory like Jesus / mother Mary?
Cheers
Borgia
I agree that it is rather "controlling" to ask me to meet with a current JW under the pretense of an ancillary, guised secular based activity. And, to ask it twice too!
I think next time, if asked, I will call these sisters' Kingdom Hall and ask to speak with the high up elders. I will calmly tell them I am a proud apostate/goat-of-high and have refused Sister Y's attempts to get me to meet with Sister X. I will suggest that both sisters be counseled for their foolery at talking with a known apostate/goat. After all, isn't it the elder's responsibility to "call on" apostates?
What do you think?
Skeeter
Nah - that would be creating a stink unnecessarily IMHO, skeeter. It's your family that are trying to arrange the 'play date' (LOL @ Sphere). And the dear JW sister may only be responding to your relatives' wish that someone 'help' you in order to do them a favor. So lay the law down with those in your family who are badgering you, rather than involve people that have nothing to do with this.
Ann, thanks for talking me out of it. Revenge can be fun to think about.... I agree, it is my family, and this woman likely knows little or nothing of my opposition to her beloved religion. My family also likes to keep their head in the sand about me. Denial is easier then the truth.
