crazy jw ex wife shoots herself in the foot, again

by Aussie Oz 17 Replies latest jw friends

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  moshe

  Sorry for your grief, man. I found out early on that it's ex-wife support- I too paid extra support, never stopped the kids from going to the KH when they visited in the summer- 1st year they went some, 2nd year- mabey once, 3rd year- no more KH at my house or at hers- they were done with JWs- 12 and 14 years old. My ex was one mean woman- and she got what she wanted- she divorced me- got that apostate out of her life- But-- Life just wasn't happy for her though like the WT promised- the Jws marked her for doing what they helped her to do!

  Sure your ex is bitter- things never go right for divorced Jws who have an "apostate" ex-spouse A my ex found out- no JW guy in his right mind would jump into a marriage where he had to deal with stepchildren who had an apostate father- too many unencumbered sisters to pick from to deal with that train wreck in her house.
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  OnTheWayOut

  perhpas she wants more child support because she is trying to pioneer

  That was my thoughts. There are two sides (or three) to the story, but we might tend to feel that her being a JW still has a bunch to do with her dealings.

  Do right by your kids and fight the good fight when you need to. Good luck to you.
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  EntirelyPossible

  Beware. Anger, fear, aggression. The dark side are they. Once they start down the dark path, forever will it dominate their destiny. Do not underestimate the powers of the GB or suffer your wife's fate you will.

  Shamelessly stolen and modified, but the point is well made, small minded people curse the rock and kick it, stubbing their toe and then curse the rock for existing, never realizing their pain is their own doing and the rock was just sitting there.

  Good luck.
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  jamiebowers

  I agree with Black Sheep. If you want to save money for your son you can just keep it under your control. You could even tell the EX you are puttig $ away for his education or something like that... just my opinion. This does sound funny your EX is being hurtful to you and she gets the short end! You just can't fix stupid.

  I agree with Found Sheep. Put the money for your son away for education or a good start on life on his own.
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  Aussie Oz

  Thanks everybody for the great comments

  I am lucky enough to be able to cover the extra for my son. His case will be closed automaticly in about 10 months time. I have always taken some pride in never defaulting on my support, in fact i too have often paid her too much. I want to hold my head up high for my kids and let them know i have always done it right and even if it means being wronged some.

  Child support has always been an issue for her. And always challenged when she does stuff like buy a new car or as the case now, her and new husband just bought house number 4. (thats owning 4 houses at onceand a shop). However, any more shit from her may well see me do it.

  She did have to accept a reduction anyway as the assesment recongnized my yearly nights care for our daughter. Hello foot shot!

  She did however screw me over for one month arrears (which i am not in) because my log of the children signing to say they have taken the money to her is not seen as evidence by the CSA. An appeal would only agrevate the crazy woman more and i would not win it.

  The advice from the CSA was that when she stopped receipting the money i should have stopped paying until she took me to the CSA for collection. What a daft arsed method! I have to get a bad name for her stupidity and vengfulness! Apparently as the payer, i do not have the right to request they do the collections. Oh well. our child support system 3.0 in australia is a lot fairer than it was when i started paying 12 years ago though.

  She is sure eating herself from the inside is all i can say. And yes the kids see it too.

  4 more years......

  oz
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  sizemik

  There has been some good feedback here OZ . . . I got a far as Pams girl's post and that about sums it up . . . I think we all agree on most things . . . I feel your approach at the mo is about as well as you can do mate . . . and there has to be a payoff for you.

  With my lot (teenagers) . . . they quickly saw the negatives of JWs and looked around . . . sure we were already fading . . . but they soon questioned things . . . wanted to sprout wings (you know) . . . it could be soon or a bit later, but your kids will question it . . . internet and all . . . and when the happens like Paula said . . . you'll win hands down mate . . . hang in there.

  Luvonyall - MS
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  chickpea

  sir

  i salute you as a father extraordinaire

  when the time comes, just walk away....
  that dame isnt worth the ink on the paper

  besides which, my hub always says
  "kill them with kindness; it'll drive 'em crazy!"

  keep loving those kids!

  cheers

  amy~
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  CoonDawg

  Oz...I feel ya, brother! I have to pay ex-wife support for just a few more months. My daughter will be 18 in October, then I won't have to pay any longer. Especially since it's been over 4 years since I've seen my daughter. I have money set aside if she wants to come down and go to college, but her mom won't get any more of it, that's for certain.