Then & Now (page 2)

looloo

i never ever got smacked as a child growing up in the 70s and 80s , but i was not raised a jw ! nor was i naughty according to my mum , a raised voice would be enough for me to do what i had to do , my mum was very sweet and a lovely lady i did know people who got beaten though , and belted (literally ) you have a pm head in a spin hows your book reading coming on hun ? xx

headisspinning

The one thing I think is interesting is my mother told me that it never even occurred to her to spank/beat us until she became a JW. An elder at the hall took her aside and told her I needed a good spanking (keep in mind he had no children of his own). My mother was so offended and shocked that she thought about never attending a meeting again. But in the end, she took the counsel.

I was six months old.

Reality79

I was born '79 so was raised in the 80s. I definitely had my far share of physical discipline, not because of the dub mentality, but because I come from a very strict Jamaican family were discipline was pretty much common as it was in a lot of caribbean and other households. Its against the law now but back then they could damn near beat you half to death as long as they didn't kill you lol.

nugget

In the 70s spanking was part of growing up and was accepted practice. Schools used canning as corporal punishment and cartoons depicted it as part of life.

Nowadays parents in uk cannot slap a child so as to leave a mark and schools are not allowed to discipline physically even when children are physically abusing staff.

My mum and Dad did use physical discipline and it hurt but they were not the most extreme. My husbands mother was much more abusive and certainly my husband has a strained relationship with his mother now because of it.

There are better ways to discipline rather than lashing out because you are bigger than them and can get away with it.

mrsjones5

My husbands mother was much more abusive and certainly my husband has a strained relationship with his mother now because of it.

I think our husbands' mothers know each other.

looloo

head in a spin , you were only six months old when an elder decided you needed a spanking ? omg thats appauling what a weirdo if he thought an innocent baby needed discipline ! my jw mother inlaw used to get pins stuck in her legs at the meetings if she didnt stay still as a child !!!!! didnt put her off though !

headisspinning

Well, I guess my mother would take me out of the main hall if I started fussing and maybe he thought that was rewarding me for acting up.... but come on! 6 month's old? Weirdo is right. LOL!

looloo

unfortunatly i have found that ones with no children have a lot of advice to give on bringing them up ! i hope someone smacks that elder one day !!!!

jeckle

me too very similar to headspinner . i spoil when i can now and dont hit. but time has helped me not to worry so much beyond that. i love my son i respect myself and him. i see him as a human, he is a child and will be an adult . i enjoy our time now and the kid's stuff too.i talk to him i share things with him and he shares with me. we sometimes get short with each other but we work it out. he knows i have to make the big decisions but he has choices of his own and i dont change them. i tell him my feeling he tells me his eventually. and its working he's an awesome kid the best nicest bravest most honest most honorable person i know and i might add it is a priviledge to be there with him as he discovers it all.

Broken Promises

i tell him my feeling he tells me his eventually. and its working he's an awesome kid the best nicest bravest most honest most honorable person i know and i might add it is a priviledge to be there with him as he discovers it all.

Such lovely words about you and your son. I hope it continues this way.

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