Do you let others mamke you feel guilty?

Snoozy

I was curious over my reaction to something my brother said to me the other day.

He asked me if I had accepted Christ...

I am not overly relgious since leaving the JW's and am just now starting to think there may possibly be something greater than us out there. BUT...

When he asked me that I felt like I had to make all kinds of excuses and apologize in a way because I don't even think about things like that and also think people that do are a little fanatic..(JMO).

Then I got to thinking, why did I feel guilty when he asked me that? How can some poeple do that? You know you are right and yet you find yourself making all kinds of excuses to them. Why couldn't I just say " Are you nuts?" or something like that.

Anyway, what is it about some people that can turn you into a wimp?

He is my big brother but still..I think he is losing it, especially after he told me that he thought Jesus may come in a spaceship...

Snoozy

Will someone please correct my spelling of make in my header of this thread...please?

Snoozy

I quit!

When people ask you if you have accepted Jesus they usually mean their fundamentist interpetation of him. I guess my answer is no. I know I can please everyone that wants me to think like them.

Here is quote I like by Ann Lamott:

"You can safely assume that you've created God in your own image when it turns out that God hates all the same people you do.”"

Morbidzbaby

I see what you mean, Snoozy. I don't know why it happens, but it does. I find myself apologizing even when I'm getting mad at someone... "I'm sorry you feel that way, but..." Well, that's a lie, isn't it? Usually when I say that, I'm NOT sorry. I'm anything BUT sorry, but it's used to diffuse the situation. Or when talking with my mom about the WTBS BS... "I'm sorry, but I just can't go along with that..." Why am I apologizing for not agreeing with a cult? I ask myself that a lot "Why did I just say I'm sorry? WTH?".

I think we grow up learning how to apologize for everything. For doing things that hurt others, obviously, but even just for having a difference in opinion. "I'm sorry" has become the go-to phrase. A way to soften the blow of having a difference of opinion or belief. Why should we apologize for not agreeing? We have our own minds...we shouldn't apologize for that.

wasblind

I don't let others make me feel guilty, I used to, but not anymore

And I find that overzealous people in any religion, half are usually tryin'

to compensate for somethin' and the other half are just batshit crazy.

I like things on an even keel, to much of anything, and the scale becomes unbalanced

LV101

wasblind --- love your analogy of people in religion --- seems so true.

mrsjones5

I like that quote Iquit.

thetrueone

He is my big brother but still..I think he is losing it, especially after he told me that he thought Jesus may come in a spaceship...

Yes I'd say he's lost somewhere between emotional delusion and reality.

The acceptance of Jesus Christ is proportionately weighed against the reason and purpose for which he was created by men.

tec

I don't think I do.

If someone says something that makes me feel guilty, its usually because I already felt bad about it, and have been ignoring the issue. However, if I don't feel that I have done anything wrong, then I won't feel guilty about it, even if they think I should, even if they try very hard to load me down with a guilt trip, and that includes my mother ;).

Making excuses when someone asks us about something sounds more like a natural defense reaction to me.

Tammy

Snoozy

My brother reads the Bible a lot! He really gets into the history etc. He also listens and calls in to talk (argue) with Arnold Murray..a popular religious talk show. I looked this guy up an I am not impressed.

Good point about the WTBTS..after I quit the religion and was working I must have said "I'm sorry" a lot because one of my co workers even pointed it out to me one time that I did that.

I don't do it like I used to but apparently it is still in me and apparently I let my older brother intimidate me..and then I started thinking that it seems there are a few people in my life that can do that. I'll have to analyze that..

Just for an example, say you are eating a plate full of spagetti and someone with you says, "You aren't going to eat all of that are you?"..my first instinct would be to say .."No, of course not" and I would only eat a portion of it.. or say while shopping you pick oout a really nice dress you like..the other person says "You aren't going to buy that awful thing are you?"... I would say "No I was just looking at it"...and put it back.

What makes some people talk to others like that..do they think that person is an idiot or something? The way they say it like You aren't are you automatically puts you on the defense and apologetic...what's up with that?... I would never dream of saying that to another person, I have enough respect for them to let them make their own choices and let them have their own opinions..

Snoozy..who is really not a wimp...

Do you let others mamke you feel guilty?

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