Hello, my name is:

by fortis et liber 26 Replies latest jw friends

  • fortis et liber
    fortis et liber

    DesirousOfChange: Just a couple of months ago I finished graduate school and my grandmother (non-Dub) told me that my Mom's (Dub) only comment regarding my completion of school/degree was, "What a waste!" I maintained composure while on the phone with my gram but lost it (bawled) when I hung up with her.

    Mr. Falcon: I grew up listening to my parents talk about how "foolish" and "stupid" those where that left the 'truth' and it just made me sick to my stomach, even then. As I grew older I was paralyzed by the thought of having my parents, brothers and 'friends' view me the same way and this thought alone kept me enslaved to the Borg for a long time. In fact, the last words my father ever said to me were, "you're stupid" and the last words my mom said to me where, "I know you'll come back because you always do the right thing." So manipulative, so controlling. It broke my heart. I am so happy that you have come to the realization that just because I think/believe differently than a Witness does that doesn't make me a horrible/wretched person. Thank you for the warm welcome and the offering of your canteen, I really do appreciate it.

    Outlaw: I cannot say/type "my name is" without hearing the Slim Shady song in my head. Great minds think alike?!

  • clarity
    clarity

    Aww Fortis you made me 'lose it' for a minute there. What an awful cult that produces this kind of hate & stupidity.

    " not long after I left all evidence of my existence (pictures, etc) were deciedly removed from sight and, no mention of me made. It's like.... I never existed at all."

    I'm almost speachless - omg the audacity and destructiveness engendered by this 'religion' is so evil. So very sorry.

    I wish the very best that LIFE can offer you.

    clarity

  • sizemik
    sizemik

    A warm welcome fortis et liber.

    It's the Borg that "chewed you up and spat you out". If you've been lurking for years you will know that exiting is a trauma . . . nobody gets away without being "chewed and spat".

    Your among friends here . . strongly bound by common experiences. We all care about each other . . . and we care about you.

    Stick around . . . stay strong . . . stay free.

    Oh and . . . careful telling OUTLAW he has a 'great mind' . . . he might get all serious on us . . . and we don't want that.

    Luvonyall - MS

  • im stuck in
    im stuck in

    Welcome. stuck in

  • CoonDawg
    CoonDawg

    Fortis et liber, my grandmother did the same thing with myself and my siblings. We don't exist in the shrine to her descendants that is her formal living room. Our photos were removed long ago - substituted with extra photos of my "good" cousins who are still "in."

  • clarity
    clarity

    CoonDawg your grannie's actions are despicable. So sorry!

    I wonder if it would be these ones who would pick-up the first stone?

    c

  • tec
    tec

    I am so sorry your mother cannot 'see' you. I can only imagine how much that must hurt, and I am hurting for you. But please accept my very warm welcome to the board, and take all the comfort you can find here.

    Tammy

  • fortis et liber
    fortis et liber

    Thank you all so very much for making me feel so very welcomed and cared for, it is greatly appreciated !!

    CoonDawg: I am so sorry your Grandma did that to you, it sure is a rotten, nasty thing.

  • TotallyADD
    TotallyADD

    Welcome fortis et liber. I to a born-in know full will the pain you have been going through. It sounds like you are pretty smart person to have left so many years ago and able to survive the trauma of leaving this cult. My parents also were hard asses about this cult. It is so nice you have introduce yourself to all of us. We all have different stories but at the same time a common thread runs through all our experiences. Take care. Totally ADD

  • Mat
    Mat

    Hi Fortis, and welcome. Wow, you've been out a while.

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