by Vakian 28 Replies latest social relationships
Oh, and I love when guys say things like this:
i didnt want to date her we were only friends for almost a year.
If you didn't want to date her, then you wanted sex. Nobody buys such statement unless they know you are gay. It might be different if you were friends with a girl your age or at your school, but we all know why post-18-year old males go sniffing around younger girls. It ain't because those younger girls are such great people to be friends with.
i see your point jgnat,she is a very open minded person,only not in religion,and already very mature for her age,abit more mature than me in some aspects,i guess living with her mother only contributed to that as her father lives in other city and is a non jw.
For some guys I guess it's very appealing.
Yep.
Until they find out who the real person is.
Thanks for answering re breathing room.
I forgot he's from a different country - Portugal.
Syl
OnTheWayOut,im not gay and i didnt want to have sex with her,i was introduced to her by a friend of mine wich is my currently drummer in my band and she asked me to help her out with guitar,so i did and i noticed we were very alike and had many things in commun,i dont like the idea of casual sex without dating the person of even loving the person,before i liked her we become rly close friends,friendship can happen even if if we have a 4 year diference
OnTheWayOut,im not gay and i didnt want to have sex with her,i was introduced to her by a friend of mine wich is my currently drummer in my band and she asked me to help her out with guitar,so i did and i noticed we were very alike and had many things in commun,i dont like the idea of casual sex without dating the person of even loving the person,before i liked her we become rly close friends,friendship can happen even if if we have a 4 year diference
OnTheWayOut,im not gay and i didnt want to have sex with her,i was introduced to her by a friend of mine wich is my currently drummer in my band and she asked me to help her out with guitar,so i did and i noticed we were very alike and had many things in commun,i dont like the idea of casual sex without dating the person of even loving the person,before i liked her we become rly close friends,friendship can happen even if if we have a 4 year diference
Then something does not ring true. What are you doing on the internet investigating her religion?
Friendship can happen with any age difference. Clearly.
I wasn't accusing you of being gay. I just said nobody buys what you said unless they know you are gay. You can pile on, but nobody will buy it.
So you were like an adult teacher to this barely teen girl, just teaching her guitar. I am not your judge. Relationships happen all the time. I don't judge whether such relationships are right or wrong (unless I had a minor daughter living under my roof). But you want to help her and as I posted on page 1, it will lead to disaster if it comes from you. You can deny it all you want on this forum, but you cannot deny to yoursefl that sex with her was one of your motivating forces to still be there.
Either you already had it with her or you hope to get it from her once you have been dating and "fall in love" somewhere before the end of this coming summer. I am certain you have evoked emotions with kissing and touching.
Regardless of how I put it so bluntly, the only way an adult can help a non-adult out of the JW cult, is that there is no confusion over love and sex and kissing and touching between them. A caring adult viewed as a figurehead can help, but otherwise it will definitely be as I stated on page 1.
Once people are adults, well... it can still happen, but you gave them a chance to grow up and they choose their own path as adults being taken advantage of emotionally instead of silly teens being taken advantage of emotionally.
I still say that something about this does not ring true.
well not only teaching her guitar with no other contact,i was also at same time her friend and we used to talk alot on msn,and when i met her had a crush on other girl,also by the time i liked her i had a friend who liked me and was always hitting on me even if she knew i liked this girl and im probably sure if i let her do something we would have sex,i dont think sex is a motivating force to be there ,actually i think its the opposite cause as she can only have after marriage then its more like a turn off cause it can take a lot of time,but i guess i see your point and as i look foward to it when it does happen,but now more interested now in having a good relationship with her,and if in a month i can date her it will be alot better.
James i can you explain me how something about this does not ring true?i dont see the point of lying if im asking for opinions about my situation
