by undercover 15 Replies latest jw friends
OK, I am going back this year... yes I am. Because my Gf need to proof that she went.... So for moral support I am going...but I get to choose where.... Where are we going? to a Vietnamese Memorial... I mean i like PHO... I cant understand anything but the language barrier means no difference. I know exactly what they are gonna say.
to the questions? I will just bow my head down.
"We miss you".
My reply: That's nice to know. I'm still in the area. Just living life each day. (make sure that smile is extra big when you state this)
I agree with OTWO's reply on the "I hope to see more of you soon".
"Cool. I'm still at the same location. Feel free to stop by, but call first, please as I may be out and about".
UC:
Last year when I went to the memorial, a sister came up to me and said something very sarcastic. I responded with a little humor which didn't give her the desired response she thought she was going to get. I actually think some JWs resent inactives/faders because we are free from the nonsense they are still shackled to and they hate us for it, hence the snotty remarks that are sometimes encountered. Otherwise, why would they give a sh#t?
And I don't give anybody an organ recital either if they ask 'how are you'. Not only is the occasion inappropriate to talk about health issues, but I don't see the point in sharing it with people who are obviously not in my life anymore - and really don't care about me. I keep the conversation light and deflect their question with something like Dagney said: "I'm fine, by the way how is ...." and then I let them talk. Mind you, these suggestions only apply to JWs who are in the 'friendly' category. If I could hardly stomach somebody when I was 'active', I am certainly not going to start talking to them now.
When i first stopped going and dubs would see me they would always say ''i have really missed seeing you''. My reply? ''You know where i live''...My response usually got an awkward nod and smile.
Peace
What if we LIKE being snarky?
In response to "we've missed you so much", I'll usually reply: "Well, you know how life gets...busy busy busy! But, I'm enjoying it and happy, so..."
