Need help!

by Snowboarder 40 Replies latest jw friends

  • Snowboarder
    Snowboarder

    Hello wounderfull people, i would like to thank everyone for they help before, but i still need moral support, i have made my mind up and i want to thanks a member of the Aussie Team Olympic team for responding to my email. It really means a lot for me when i don't have any real friends when a Olympic Athlete responds to your email and cares. She gave me good advice and told me it's possible even thought my situation is hard, that really gave me hope and it was that push that i need to start thinking seriously. She also on her FB fan wall said this "The sacrifices that you make as an athlete are HUGE!". In my case my scarifies are going to be huge i will have to give up everything i know and do a lot of explaining to so many people why i picked this path. My parents will be very disappointed, but maybe they will see the light before i get to the Olympics or do any races.

    Anyway interesting point that she made in the email was this "I don't understand why you can't do both, be a Jehovah's witness and live your dream? I not sure what the beliefs are in your religion but if there are boundries that stop you from doing what you love, seems a bit strange" This also caused me to do some more thinking, yes the JW are strange, I have no idea what to write back to her, but i told here to keep reading my blog and she will understand soon enough.

    Currently there is lot's of tension building up in the house, and it's becoming mentally hard for me to endure. I just hate my life and somedays i would rather be dead then alive. My mom's lecturing's everyday about JW stuff, study more and you talk to the wrong people in the Hall, don't talk to sisters to much, talk more to the elders, be more happy in service, raise your hand higher, give more comments, be more friendly, your tie is not straight, your going in service not to a funeral so be happy, he's not baptized so don't be a close friend to him, don't read too much worldly magazines, stop talking about snowboarding in service, be more spiritual, don't call worldly family too much, and the list goes one and one, then when i'm home alone she calls every 10 mins to make sure what i'm doing, then she nags to i should be studying the bible!

    After meetings if i don't do something right her nagging with my depression kills me, i really feel like committing suicide. Some days i can't take it anymore. Also today she read me to me from the watchtower to avoid worldly association with unbelievers, then she mentioned i should not Skype my cousin to often, i was so upset but i kept my cool.

    On a positive note i don't have to much time and it's late here i want to sleep. i'm starting to blog. visit my blog comment and follow. it really helps i need all the support i can get! http://sochiolympicgames.blogspot.com/ that's my blog start on the first post and work your way up, it's going to be a long story, there is no JW points yet but they will come, if i ever do get in the olympics my blog will be my revenge to the governing body because i will publish it into a book, then after the olympic promote it and hopeful people will read it and someone will get inspired and not give up! Pls email me the i will check in here more often it's fun reading the posts,

    Good night! Sorry if you messaged me and i did not reply. i don't check here often and i'm facing a crisis at the moment.

  • Snowboarder
    Snowboarder

    Sorry if there is any mistakes i don't have time and it's midnight!

  • jean-luc picard
    jean-luc picard

    Do you check your PMs?

  • Black Sheep
    Black Sheep

    Maybe your mother is right and you should study more.

    Scan whatever it is you are supposed to be studying for mistakes and dishonesty and whenever you find something ask her to explain it.

    If she uses any crazy logic, point it out and ask her to explain why she used it.

    If she makes statements that you know she can't back up, ask her to prove it and show you the article/whatever.

    Just don't tell her anything. Questions only. if you have an article from a publication that she trusts that you want her to know about, ask her to read it to you and explain it. It will just make for even bigger trouble if you read it to her and explain it. Make her do the work.

    The only thing that has worked for me is having them owe me an explanation for their doctrines and behaviour. It hasn't got them out of the cult, but knowing that I am still waiting for an answer to a question they don't want to even think about, keeps them out of my face.

  • nugget
    nugget

    If it is your dream to be an olympic athlete then you need to commit to it. You need a mind clear of clutter and you need to focus on your dream. If you have skill and ability it will not be enough without commitment and training.

    You need to be honest with your parents, there is tension partly because of the lack of communication and because of the frustrations you are all dealing with. You know that the JW potential for over reactions is immense. If you are in a position to move out then I would but if not then you need to speak to them. Reassure them that you love and respect them but you are sorry but you have to make a choice that you know will disappoint them. Tell them that you need to commit time to pursue your olympic dream you understand that they may not feel able to support you but this is something you must do. If you do not you know you would resent the religion and harbour frustration and you are not ready to give up on this. This will not be cured by more study or service. This decision does not mean you love your parents any less but you hope they still love you and will give you the time you need to try to fulfil your dream.

    Most parents would be overjoyed and proud to have a child with such potential it just shows how warped this religion is.

  • Iamallcool
    Iamallcool

    snowboarder, if you are ever in the USA. I would be interested to meet you. One of my good friends was a professional snowboarder and she is very gorgeous. (She is married now) (never a witness)

  • losthobbit
    losthobbit

    My suggestion: read "Awaken the Giant Within", by Anthony Robbins.

    Will help you with your emotions, dealing with your mom and your snowboarding. It's a pretty thick book though.

  • jamiebowers
    jamiebowers

    If you continue to have suicidal thoughts, please see your school counselor. As difficult as your life is now, it will be a blip in time once you're grown up and on your own.

  • Pika_Chu
    Pika_Chu

    Currently there is lot's of tension building up in the house, and it's becoming mentally hard for me to endure. I just hate my life and somedays i would rather be dead then alive. My mom's lecturing's everyday about JW stuff, study more and you talk to the wrong people in the Hall, don't talk to sisters to much, talk more to the elders, be more happy in service, raise your hand higher, give more comments, be more friendly, your tie is not straight, your going in service not to a funeral so be happy, he's not baptized so don't be a close friend to him, don't read too much worldly magazines, stop talking about snowboarding in service, be more spiritual, don't call worldly family too much, and the list goes one and one, then when i'm home alone she calls every 10 mins to make sure what i'm doing, then she nags to i should be studying the bible!

    Snowboarder, I TOTALLY understand! We must have been seperated at birth or something...I know exactly how this is, and I deal with stuff like this a lot. I blow off much of the steam by hanging out on this forum and talking to worldly and apostate friends (I sneak around and walk on eggshells). That sort of life style is very stressful...

  • mamamo
    mamamo

    GO FOR IT!!!!!!

    I have so many regrets, I regret not going to college right after High School, I regret not trying to find the love of my life earlier, I could go on, but you get the idea. If you are capable of going to the Olympics, go for it! DO not let anything including a cult of a religon stand in your way! Take it from someone who turns 46 this year and is in college and trying to find a guy, don't have the regrets!

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