I've always looked for a man who is well-read; intelligent. A man who can talk on a wide variety of subjects....from the current hot discoveries in Astronomy(a favorite interest of mine)to the current trend in fashion, and anything in between.
A man with a sense of humor and can actually laugh at himself and life in general(that makes the hard times more bearable.
Someone who is very much a man in the truest sense of the word: masculine, strong, dependable and yet is in touch with his feelings. My guy isnt hung up on being able to cry. I dont equate sensitivity with being weak at all.
A man who will challenge me and my ideas and allows me to do the same with him; I find verbal sparring or debate with my mate to be very sexy. Like someone else pointed out, someone who can teach me things and isnt afraid to learn a thing or two from me as well.
My man is someone whom I can share the quiet beauty of things with.....like taking a walk in the woods in winter or staring out over the endless ocean at sunset, not saying a word necessarily but sharing the same moment just the same and knowing he gets it.
I would say never stop looking for the person you dream of being with, because the more you know yourself and what you want, the easier it is to know that person when you see them....and they are so worth the wait! I had all but given up and then I met Skeptic on H20 and fell in love with my soulmate and nothing can compare with that.
Sincerely, Windrider