by PinkPajamasx 41 Replies latest jw friends
Pink PJsx, welcome!
Your story moved me and I am happy that you and your husband have found the strength to overcome a great loss and break free from the grip of the Borg.
Tell us more about you in due time and enjoy being amongst friends without a laundry list of conditions for the friendship.
-Yan
Hello Pink and a big welcome to our forum. There are some wonderful people on here for you to share with. I enjoyed your intro and look forward to hearing more from you. Am loving your boldness. Am so sad to hear of the loss of your baby. Hugs.
Loz x
Hello and welcome- We have ways of dealing with nutso people, like your JW in-laws.- lay it on them, they either take it or jump.
Dang, moshe... you hack into OUTLAW's computer and steal one of his pics?
BTW... to the OP: Welcome!
Welcome, Pink!
Sounds to me like you are made of tough stuff, and well done for standing up to the in-laws.
It also sounds like you have a good priest to turn to for advice when you need it.
JW's are mad, bad and dangerous to know. In my opinion. They very, very nearly sucked/suckered me in, but no more.
A little about me,
I was raised in Long Beach, CA. I am Mexican/Apache/White/Cherokee lol. My father is from Tucson, AZ and mom is from Los Angeles, CA. I was raised to give praise to God everyday and to do what is right. I grew up a fighter and didn't let anyone put me down whether it was race issue or the way I looked. I was never a reckless teenager but did enjoy a few parties here and there. I always had self respect and respected others.
In 1995 I suffered a cerebral hemmoraghe and had brain surgery to repair. I also am an Epileptic since puberty. None of these things bring me down, only build me up. I am not a victim nor will I ever play one.
I have a huge heart and give to the needy whenever possible. I love my family, they're my life.
My husband is a naturalized American. He was born in the Philipines and came to the US at the age of 2. His mom was pregnant with his sister and had to leave her in the Philipines for 6 years of her life. When my hubby's sister came to the US she was told all she knew as a Catholic is a sham and the Pope is a bad person. You see while my in-laws first came here they didn't go to church until them DOOR KNOCKERS came around. My husband's whole life changed, no more parties or holidays and everything was worldly and wicked. Most of his teenage years was dressing in monkey suits and spreading their faith. He finally said he wasn't going anymore and of course his dad was angry but my husband stood his ground. It was until after the death of our child he started dabbling in JW worship again.
My sister in-law was accepted with a scholarship to attend UCIrvine where her parents said no. She got pregnant soon after and left the house for good. Now she's in a failing marriage with 4 kids. I blame her parents for that, she did what she had to do to get out of there. Her story is so heart-breaking and I'm afraid I'll start crying if I'm to type it out.
My hubby's lil brother is now a bi-polar schitzo. He did meth during puberty which changed the chemicals in his brain. I now know why he did drugs, to cope with that religion. While he was still a minor, we told his parents to seek help for him but they said Jehovah's Witnesses don't get outside help. Like the elders are quailified therapists. Now he's a major burden.
I have three babies one in spirit. My eldest is 16, SMART kid, handsome and very witty. I get go many comments on how respectable he is. My husband said he is only like that because I raised him that way. He loves his sports and friends and DOES NOT dabble in drugs or gangs like my hubby and brother in-law did. I show him love, real love not what an orginazation say real love is.
My babygirl is a doll. She's 8 and too smart for her own age. She loves volleyball and dammit, BOYS already. She's my long eye lashed beauty with a huge heart. She is a daddy's girl and getting one of the highest marks in her school .
I love my kids and yes, I do push them to be the best. That's my job lol.
Welcome to the team! There seems to be a new person every 5 minutes around here. I feel like an old-timer and I've not been here for 2 years yet!
What a sad story. I realize in hindsight just how heartless the JW belief system made me. When someone loses a loved one, it's more important to offer comfort than to try to debunk whatever beliefs they have about death. I wish I'd known that sooner.
JW in-laws can be interesting people. My condolences on that and all else you have suffered. Keep reading. Always fun stuff bein' served up!
--sd-7
Welcome PinkPagamasx from a older guy with ADD. Your story is so true about alot of JW's relatives. They just can't keep their nose out of other peoples business. I am glad both your husband and you realize this is a cult. It is so nice to hear from ones who are not JW's trying to get out. Your insight will be very valuable to all of us. Thanks for coming on board. It's great to have you here. Totally ADD
Welcome Pink. Glad to have you on board. Keep us updated.
Pink,,you sound like a wonderful mom & wife. You have been through many difficult things but you seem amazingly strong and stable. You've got your balance and confidence and obviously your immediate family do too. You're so knowledgable about what you are up against and no longer threatened. Wonderful, how you have taught your children to speak up about certain restrictions to your in-laws when you are not there.
Also, just please tell your husband, thank you for serving the country. This was a big change for him to choose this career, especially with no encouragement from his family in that way. However, it sounds like he's proven his commitment and strengths as well.
