Welcome to JWN! I'm glad to hear that you have a relationship with your daughter but not with your faded brother. It's not just js who are homophobes, (heavy sigh). Is your daughter out? I was a df'd believer for 13 years until I saw Barbara Anderson and Bill Bowen on Dateline NBC. And I too started frequenting this site to help my brother who was in the process of fading. I also found a world of help for myself.