I will get my arrangemnts in writing...I just purchased a burial plot next to my parents, thats a start...
GOOD start, dear CHG (peace to you!). It often is a "touchy" subject, but love should prompt us to try and handle these matters, when they related to ourselves, so our loved ones don't HAVE to... and no one's unclear as to what WE wanted. True, such events are for the living, so perhaps there should be a discussion about it before the time comes. But I would advise EVERYONE, if they are able to:
1. Complete an Advanced Medical Directive (unless you have given the choice of your medical status to someone - I have, to my husband because since he's the one who'll have to "deal" with my state at the time, I think he should make the decision). You ESPECIALLY want to do this if you have ANY fears that you might NOT be given blood, if you need it... or BE given it if you don't want it. Or wish to be resucitated... or not, etc. If you really CANNOT trust those who might be looked to for your care to fulfill YOUR wishes, you really need to handle this matter NOW.
2. Establish a Living Trust, if you can/have assets that need it; if not,
3. At a minimum, create a Will. Yes, you can write it out in your hand (yes, that will hold up at law - it's called a "Holographic" Will)... but be sure to DATE and sign it! If you have assets, you can create a Will that "pours over" into a trust. You don't need to have a hand-written Will notarized/witnessed, but it's a good idea. A typed document MUST be "witnessed."
4. Write out what you would LIKE to have occur in the event of your injury/demise (care, burial, cremation, urn, box, cemetery, eulogy, whatever...)
5. To help you GREATLY... get burial insurance and/or at least START making your own arrangements... (for example, as dear CHG - and my husband and I have done)... purchase your plot/crypt/vault/shelf/urn (you can do any of this on installment). That way, you KNOW where you'll end up, if that's important to you!
I do not mean to be morbid, here... or hijack dear CHG's thread (my apologies, dear one!). I only mean to be practical and help those who it may help avoid some of what she's going through, if possible. And it may be possible, especially if things are planned ahead, to alleviate SOME of our loved ones grief and stress... because they will have less to worry about.
Dear CSB... peace to you... and GOOD for you - love bomb away!
Peace to you all!
A slave of Christ,
SA
P.S. CHG's attending her father's memorial at a KH does NOT negate her "cease and desist" order. She is not coming to the KH to attend a meeting of JWs, per se (i.e., Public Talk, WT Study, TMS, etc.), but her father's funeral. In that light, their contact with her is limited to whatever's related to that purpose ONLY. True, someone can try to discuss "living forever", etc., with her... but all she need do is politely decline.
