Thanks for more helpful advice, everyone. Can't tell you how much I appreciate it and how much I'm learning.
"she will probably say we are spiritually protected."
Ugh, that term is familiar. Her teacher says things like "It's so important we go to meetings because Armageddon could come when we're in a kingdom hall and all together" UNBELIEVABLE. but it's working on my kid. She might be convinced they will be protected. She was actually shocked to hear witnesses died in the Japan earthquake. You can see the battle I've got here.
"Your daughter should not feel that she owes the study conductor anything."
The teacher is worse than that. Because my daughter is questioning, this teacher spends a lot of time with her after their 'bible study' and she tells me that the teacher says to her "I don't even record this time, because I'm only interested in you, as friends" or the two of them go out to lunch and the teacher keeps saying "I spend a lot of time with you outside studying so obviously i care about you as a person" and she takes her to meetings, so my daughter feels like the girl has wasted a lot of time. BUT she thought it WAS The truth. I think she can be angry a the whole lot of them for teaching her a load of garbage that they could count as time, but my daughter got nothing out of. But she doesn't see it that way and can't shift the guilt. She also thinks they're all so proud of her, but that's how naive she is, sadly.
"If they are up to no good, then the last thing they want hanging around with them is an Uber righteous newly baptized person"
From what I saw they are one person in kingdom hall and an entirely different one outside. It's infuriating though because my daughter quickly got a reputation down there as being an ex-nightclub/partying kind and they didn't approve of that. People stopped talking to her because it wasn't "spiritually up building" conversation. If anything they think she's going to be a bad influence. Her teacher says to her "You even have to watch your association with other witnesses because everyone's at different levels" OH GOD! Talk about mental disturbances. My conclusion is the teacher is telling my daughter "Do as I say, not as I do." at this point. Or maybe they're trying to groom her into an uber witness so they can laugh at her later or show the elders that they groomed someone into an uber witness.
"I've had it several times where they tell me to my face what a great time they had on the beach (or doing whatever) yesterday! They are so ignorant they defy description."
Thanks for saying this because i will show it to her as she thinks they only talk about doing fun stuff in front of her to encourage her to become a witness so they can invite her.
They've asked her to go out again today. Now she can't say they're not inviting her (i still don't trust them) but she doesn't want to go. But she wants to go to the meeting which i don't understand. Honestly, is there any truth to witnesses needing the meetings because of the brainwashing? She's been going consistently for 4 months and despite all the bullshit going on about the 'friends', she still wants to go. She says sometimes she doesn't even know why. Is this just nonsense in her head or can it be true?