There is no escape, no way out...

by butalbee 30 Replies latest jw friends

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  ashitaka

  Logi-LOLOL@double the demons....

  ashi
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  Lari

  I think that displaying C of C would be a good idea only if you really dont care what happens to your JW connections. If that is the case then you should really just point blank tell them you think JWs are a cult and want nothing to do with them and dont come back.

  I also agree with amccullough. I know when I was a JW I honestly believed that I was saving lives. Ex JWs need to show a little more respect to the rank and file JWs. Most of 'em truly believe or at least dont know better.

  Respect is a two way street.
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  butalbee

  Why should I show them any respect after all the crap they've put me through????? They have no respect for me. They're not trying to save my life, they trying to ultimately destroy it.

  Logical--LMAO. Very good advice.

  Elder wart nose is a regular customer where I work and comes in quite freguently. Seems more so now though...maybe cuz I'm just paying more attention to his presence.

  The sister who asked me to study crap with her is a close friend of my ex, they would even sit by us when we were together at the hall. So I think she has other motives.........
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  amccullough

  Again, you are right!!! They probably gather in groups to scheme on the best way to ultimately destroy your life.

  Gimme a break, you sound like a teenager saying things like that (maybe you are, I don't know.) Try not to be so subjective to any bitter feelings you have towards them. If you don't like the way they treat you, then raise yourself above and act with respect back, otherwise you have no room for complaint. Ever hear of the Golden Rule? Despite being cliche, it has merit.
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  expatbrit

  Butalbee:

  When you say he's a regular customer, does he actually buy anything, or is he just there to hassle you?

  If he doesn't buy anything, then he's basically just a nuisance who's stopping you from helping real customers. That can be pointed out to your employer should you decide to complain about the harrassment.

  If he does buy stuff, your leverage is less, but you could always request that someone else help him. Just because he's a customer does not mean he has the right to try and enforce unrelated conversations on you.

  You could try an "unofficial disassociation", since I don't think you have any family to worry about. Send (or better, get a lawyer to send) a registered letter to the elder, the kingdom hall, and Brooklyn telling them to back off and leave you alone. That should do it.

  Or, you could ask yourself the question: what would Lara Croft do?

  Expatbrit
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  Lari

  Don't get me wrong, I am not saying you need to drop to your knees and kiss their hands. Just a little respect for their opinions. They very likely do not want to Destroy your life - though that may be what you think would happen if they got their way.

  From personal experience I know that I have gotten farther with a cool, determined attitude. "I know what you know and I have made my choice. Please don't bring it up again." Then when they do bring it up I interrupt them mid-sentence with a loud, firm NO! That seems to work.

  Elder Wart Nose: We just want to see you..
  Butalbee: NO. This conversation is over.
  Elder Wart Nose: How can you...
  Butalbee: NO ( a little louder)
  Then walk away.

  Anyway, though it's fun and theraputic to think of ways to freak out faithful Dubs. But if you actually act, then you never become free of their grip.
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  butalbee

  I am not a teenager, I am a grown woman, who respects and treats everyone I see with compassion and sincerity. They all come and bug me, I do nothing but try my damnest to ignore them.

  Elder wart nose usually comes in buys like one item, loaf of bread, milk, something like that.

  Oh, fuck two suits are at my door right now..crap
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  butalbee

  Lara Croft would pack a pistol and use it.
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  expatbrit

  Be cold and calm Butalbee. You are the iceberg, they are the rowing boats! Try not to give them the power of stirring your emotions.

  Expatbrit
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  amccullough

  OK, what of my last two posts does not make sense?

  I am not a teenager, I am a grown woman, who respects and treats everyone I see with compassion and sincerity.

  Except JWs?

  They all come and bug me, I do nothing but try my damnest to ignore them.

  Then it's simple. Don't ignore them, but instead politely tell them that you are not interested. If they insist, tell them you that you respect their beliefs and will not try to convince them that you are right and they are wrong and you would like them to do the same.

  Then you won't have to go on to DBs to talk about them behind their back.