Why can't I just have one day with out seeing a JW ......seriously

by troubled mind 24 Replies latest watchtower bible

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  troubled mind

  Today I went early to my Dad's house to help my disabled sister with Medical paperwork . At 10am the cleaning lady shows up . She was a JW recruit of my Mom's yrs ago, and use to be like a sister to us a REALLY long time ago . She cleans for my Dad now that my JW Mom passed away . Dad was never a witness,my Sister is technically ,but because of health is mostly house bound .

  Anyways ,the jw cleaning lady pulls up outside and calls my Dad to see who is visiting since she sees my car in the drive . When she comes in she looks past me to say hi to Dad then looks down as she passes me even though I acknowledge her . Later when no one else is in the room I asked her what she was using to clean with ? She tells me curtly and when I continue to speak about the cleaning product she turns to me ,and says she does not know if she can continue speaking to me because she does not know my standing . So I say 'standing ?' why I am standing right here in front of you ! ', She says :No I mean what your spiritual standing is "....... I started laughing . She repeats .' I can not talk to you if I don't know your spiritual standing is "... I say 'Well okay whatever makes you happy ' .... I then took my sister out of the house for a drive .

  But seriously !!! Does she honestly think me being polite ,and making conversation about cleaning products is really going to jeapordize her faith some how ??? And this also proves how gossipy JWs most be because she doesn't even attend the same hall I use to go to .How else would she even know I have faded ?

  Do you think karma is getting me back for all those yrs I acted like that ? In front of my sister and Dad I just made jokes about her behavior ,but in the car on the way home I felt the sting ....it hurts when people don't value your existance . I am glad I have this place to let it out at because I know someone here understands how it feels . I do try to let these things go and focus on the postives I now have in life ,but still it stings .

  I just wish I could go through a week or better yet a month of never seeing a JW . It happens daily though and I am so sick of it right now .
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  ziddina

  Crud...

  I was going to say, "Send 'em to me and I'll give them an anti-witness!", but her behavior was rude and uncalled for...

  Nasty gossipy people.

  I'm so sorry that you had to experience that.

  Now, if I'd been in your shoes... She would have heard about it!!

  Zid the She-Devil

  P.S. I spoke to 'karma', and she/he said she/he was perfectly O-K with your past behavior - you've learned your lesson and there was no need to show you what it looked like...
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  ABibleStudent

  Hi ((((((((((((troubled mind)))))))))). It sucks that JWs can be so deluded by a publishing and distribution corporation that uses thought reform. You did great confronting the cleaning lady. If you would like to have some fun with her, I would leave a copy of "Crisis of Conscience" laying on a table at your father's house.

  Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

  ABibleStudent
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  nugget

  I am sorry it does hurt and that is the point I suppose. It is a way of bullying another person and although we do our best to dismiss it as their thing it is still difficult.

  If your dad is not a JW could he not get an alternate housekeeper to come and clean. After all it is not appropriate for her to bully you in your father's home. It is unacceptable that a cleaner makes you uncomfortable. Tell your dad she really upset you it is fair he knows.
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  troubled mind

  Thank you Zid I appreciate the influence you have on Karma ,it's good to know someone with that kind of connections !

  I like the idea of leaving COC out for her to dust around ...knowing her though she would run from the house screaming and then He would have to get his old cleaning lady back (that would be ME and believe me I don't want it ! )

  My Dad is a croutchity old man .....and I can't think of a better revenge than to have her continue putting up with him ........ I will be the one to fire her little #&@ one day until then I will just avoid visiting during her work time .

  She was pissed, I guess ,and gave my sister an earful for not warning her that I would be there .
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  IsaacJ22

  I had years of this stuff after I left my KH. It remains one of my pet peeves with local Witnesses. 15 years later, and I only have to deal with them once in a while...despite the fact that they're my in-laws.

  Hurray!

  You might try asking them how good an impression they think they're making on you when they treat you this way. If you were a Mormon and treated them this way, would it encourage the Witnesses to change their faith to Mormonism or would it actively discourage them?

  Hey, the least they can do is to do no harm. Sometimes, just behaving like a decent person can be a good witness to others. But behaving badly does more harm than good.
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  ProdigalSon

  It's a horrible thing to live in constant fear of a sky tyrant represented by a bunch of old geezers in suits with serious halitosis.
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  troubled mind

  'Hey, the least they can do is to do no harm. Sometimes, just behaving like a decent person can be a good witness to others. But behaving badly does more harm than good.'

  excellant point IsacJ......... Even when I was a witness that is what I thought about treating others . I admit I did not go out of my way to talk to a df'd person ,but I did say Hi or smiled if I ran into them in public . I most certainly returned conversation if they spoke to me first . Kindness and dignity should never be shoved aside to make a religious point .It just doesn't make sense ... Love would not behave that way .
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  OUTLAW

  She tells me curtly and when I continue to speak about the cleaning product she turns to me ,

  and says she does not know if she can continue speaking to me because she does not know my standing ......troubled mind

  Thats funny..Your standing is..

  She works for your family,you asked a direct Question,you expect a direct Answer and..

  Tell her to Loose the Attitude..

  ......................;-)...OUTLAW
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  DesirousOfChange

  If you are just fading, the you are in "good standing" (not DFd or DAd). Tell her so. Tell her if she has a problem discussing the business arrangement with you, that you are confident that an alternative "employee" can be located.

  Your reason for you inactive status could be that you have been offended by unchristian conduct from other individuals like her who for get the very basis for Christ's ransom sacrifice -- LOVE for mankind.....and the failure of other witnesses (like her) to apply what Christ stated as the 2nd greatest commandment-- love thy neighbor. Her self-righteous, and rudeness as she displayed to you is in conflict with any teaching of Christ. Suggest she put down her WT mag and read the Gospels more.

  DOC