How did you do it? (page 4)

mauiboy

Went from a slow fade to a fairly quick exit after about 30 years of 'the-mind-and-the-heart-don't-agree'-induced depression. considered suicide several times, but found reasons not to go ahead with that. Finally, after one especially severe episode with depression, I just came home and said "I'm done". Had visited a shrink for several years, run the gammut on anti-depressants and drugs, and finally realized it was that my heart couldn't accept all the BS "truth' that I was gagging on for most of my life.....4 years later, depression has not resurfaced to any serious degree, my wife of 40-plus years has finally gotten used to the fact that I really am done with the 'dubs', and I have an inner contentment I very much treasure. Examine your life and self carefully, don't jump into anything. Remember that a bell can't be un-rung, if you take a step, usually it cannot be undone. Having said that, I wish you the best.

wha happened?

What I did to keep the elders from snooping, was I had my cards moved to a cong a good distance away. I canceled my land line as no elder had my cell#, and I live in a security complex. Can't get in unless someone opens the gate. I haven't even received a letter and my cards have been there for about 7 years now

LoneWolf

The elders were demanding I go along with stuff I knew was wrong. I refused and arranged for a bunch of them to be removed. That pissed them off and I laughed at them. Therefore they concocted false charges and DFed me. I walked out still laughing at them.

Never could figure out why they didn't like me. Haw, haw!!!!

I've rubbed it in their faces ever since, and prospered in the process. Far from hiding from them, I flaunt it and that drives them up a wall.

I can honestly say that I never really had a spiritual crisis over their sanctions, but felt that the scripture in 1 Cor. 7:15 could have some application here, primarily the last phrase, "but God has called you to peace."

And that is what happened. I did the best I could and have no regrets nor guilty conscience from the standpoint of allowing myself to be intimidated enough to go along with their hogwash.

GeneM

Wha happened? You're a fade out ninja! That's brilliant.

Mauiboy, I did the double life for about a year after I realized I was an atheist. I cannot imagine 30. I thought about suicide too, I imagine a lot of us did. But like rebel8 said, life is 9^583722647859938 better. I miss some of the good friends I made to be sure, but I made more.

WTWizard

I moved across the territory line, but I snake-forwarded my publisher card. Rather than formally joining the new congregation, I remained in my old one. And I started attending the other one part time, using the pretext that it was easier sometimes if I went to their boasting sessions. In time, I started doing that randomly.

Once that pattern was established, I started missing them altogether. Each side thought I was at the other. I would go to just enough boasting sessions to make them think I was still going--when I was actually missing most of them on purpose. My field circus time started getting slashed around that time--all of one lousy hour a month.

One day, I stopped going. I would "plan" on going, but wuss out at the last minute. The last boasting session was the REJECT Jesus Party of 2005. I continued token field circus until June 2005, and after that I did nothing. It would have been easier for me to "get around" to moving to New Zealand than to make the trip to the Kingdumb Hell. And I have snaked on seeing the witlesses ever since.

Balaamsass

We just faded after a congregation move and changing of the phone numbers. I had a picket fence added to the Rose garden (and put a small lock on it). We are third generation JWs. Family goes back to Russel. Never missed a month of service for over 40 years. Bethel. Pioneering. Elder. The outragious treatment of local abuse survivors was the begining of the end for me. I thought my fight to protect innocents was a strange local problem. We had Two molesters and a wife beating elder in our hall. More nearby! And I was expected to keep things "Quiet"?? "Theocratic Strategy"... Lying? No more cazy talk for me. Hello, police...sex crimes investigator please.....

No letter needed. We still have family and business conections. The word was sent out is that I "caused divisions", but nothing was ever announced publicly. The wife says it's because I know of too many skeletons, attorneys, and can be cranky. :)

3rdgen

Fade seems to be the popular choice if you can swing it. That's the plan for me..I try not to say or do anything publicly (including facebook) that could possibly be construed as "apostate" It's been close to 3 years since I've attended a meeting other than the memorial. The CO was visiting and started giving a wretched experience that included graphic details of physical violence on a child. In the middle of his sentence I got up and ran out crying. Nobody had the guts to follow me out or ask what was wrong. When I run into witnesses I almost always make the first move to talk, often give a big hug. Hard to shun or reprove someone who's so friendly!

finallysomepride

Born in

I had decided that it wasn't totally the 'Truth' in the early 80s, but hung around & faded for another 20 yrs off & on, totally left in 2002, never to be seen again lol. Strange thing is it took this site in 2009 for me to realise how corrupt the 'Truth' really is.

FSP

Kevin

stillstuckcruz

I was born-in. I am SO mentally out but as my name suggests, I'm still stuck in for my family. I never know when my situation will take a turn for the worse if my family finds out about my "apostacy". I still hold mikes and handle stage responsibilites, and RBC work, but I will not step out for even a shred or more resposibilities.

CoC was my big wake-up call and the beginning of my research. I've learned more about the Borg in the past few months than I have learned in 20 years.

Found Sheep

ok ok the quick run down

born in pioneer...

divorced an elder= public reproof=shunning?

stopped going to meedings

elders wanted to DF over a rumor that wasn't true... DA= now happy

How did you do it?

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