Why dont you look for a meet up group, or just search for your local town in the search feature. I found some ex-jws on this site by doing that....meeting in person is very helpful.
I'm in a pretty dark place...
by OneDayillBeFree 25 Replies latest jw experiences
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00DAD
You express your feelings of pain quite clearly. I remember well the years I struggled knowing that it was a bunch of hypocritical lies, but unsure what to do. My JW wife at the time didn't want to hear it. You can't talk to the elders and share your doubts or knowledge of WT lies and hypocrisy.
It really isolates you. And then you become increasingly aware that the main part of your life is all pretense as well. This religion practically FORCES people to become something they are not. And the price of being true to yourself, and in fact true to reality, is shunning.
It's terrible. What the WT leadership does is simply criminal.
Hang in there, it does get better. And you're better off than I was because you have discovered this place where you can share and hear from others. I wish I'd known about it 10 years ago. I only discovered JWN last summer. It's really helped.
00DAD
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jamiebowers
If you can't find a meet up group in your area, and you're not afraid to do so, pm me your location, and I'll try to find an exjw close to you. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, I can pm you my phone number, so you can at least talk to a live person.
Edited to add: I'm pm'ing you my phone number.
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NewChapter
It's a process. A painful process, but a process all the same. You don't have to make big decisions, just little ones. They will build until you know which way you are going. So be patient with yourself. Try to think about the little steps you are taking instead of the bigger picture for now. You don't have to define all of your goals this very minute. You've already taken the biggest step of all.
NC
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Intel
Hi OnedayIllbeFree: I just saw your thread...the title says it all. I just wanted to know how you're doing? I hope you're feeling better.
Sometimes we need little steps, but nonetheless they are steps that get us out of the cult. Do things at your pace.
Wish you the Best my friend. Please keep fighting. We all have or are still doing it. The many experiences here tell me: It can be done!!!!
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Intel
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zagor
Sometimes I feel like life isn't going to get any better anymore
It does get better my friend. No exit is easy, and then some time after that while you relearn how to live again, and most importantly to have fun while you doing it.
Eventually pressure will stop. You will enjoy what you do and won't be taking yourself seriously anymore. Don't give up, life is precious precisely because no moment can be brought back. Once a chance is going it is gone forever. So don't waste your moments on something that doesn't bring you joy. Hang around people who you wouldn't mind having for your neigbours for the rest of your life. Why spend time with people who cause all this pain.