We were taught that this is detrimental and would only end in doom and gloom...is it true??
Are you happy or know someone who is?? Do you regret it?
Has ANYONE married someone who is not a jw and been/is happy????
by MsGrowingGirl20 30 Replies latest watchtower bible
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Sheep2slaughter
There's a sister in our hall that married a guy she knew since middle school. She waited until she was 25 to marry but she is very happy. They of course gave a talk about marrying out the org and being unevenly yoked but she didn't care. She is a trooper and soldered on. They seem sincerely happy. Probably because he views her as his equal instead of subservient.
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besunny
Yes,,I married about a year ago out of the org and I must tell you it's been the happiest year of my life so far,,also my 2 best friends that I grew up with at the KH married out of the org years ago and both have had an over 20 year happy life with their husbands.....I married in the truth when I was 25 to a brother that was a reg. pioneer and had 3 kids with him and it was a very misrable exsistance,,he was very controlling and emotionally and physically abusive,,the headship thing went right to his head,,,,I suggest when you find someone just make sure that person is your bestfriend and spend time alot of time with them before you get married,,and in or out of the truth that person must be your bestfriend,,,,just because you are both in the same religion doesn't mean everything will be ok,,also you can be happy outside of Jehovah's Witness's,,the world is a big place.
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N.drew
Hi MsGrowingGirl, I was married before I became a JW. I can not imagine being happier if I had married a JW.
I wondered about the tension that is present in a JW JW marriage because a lot depends on subjection to the GB authority and works of "faith". If one spouse is not keeping up with the chariot of Jehovah then the other spouse should be concerned. And that's not right.
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Vidqun
I have been "married in the Lord" and "divorced in the Lord," so either way, there is no guarantee of happiness. I think it would help if you and your potential mate have a lot of things in common. It must be about more than beauty and sex. Over time these things become less important. My five cents worth.
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Stealth
I think in most cases it has less to do with religeous affiliation and more to do with the compatablity of the couple. I was married to a JW for 18 years and we were just not very compatable with each other. Neither of us were truly happy. Turns out that being a JW was about the only thing we had in common.
A couple years after divorce, I met a great woman who was brought up as a baptist, I was already an exJW at that point. We were very compatable and have been together for over 10 years. We are both very happy. In hind sight, I wish the first marriage would have ended sooner, but that is not so easy in JW land.
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mrsjones5
We were taught that this is detrimental and would only end in doom and gloom...is it true?? No
Are you happy or know someone who is?? Yes, very happy. Been married to my "worldly" man for over 19 years now.
Do you regret it? Nope, not a bit.
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tornapart
Not myself, but I know a couple, she's JW, he's Catholic. They have a wonderful marriage, been married many years and share each other's friends on social occasions, just separate for their religious stuff. Think that's the answer to it really. They respect each other's beliefs and love each other for who they are and not what they are.
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MsGrowingGirl20
hmmmmm....i love the replies...it's NOT ABOUT RELIGION bu about compatibility...nice
you would never think from how the org puts it that there are actually happy people who did not marry a witness also...
there's his sis in my cong whose husband is not a jw..I LOVE THEM!!! they are genuinely in love with eachother not there position or standing with the org but with EACHOTHER!!!
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Magwitch
I think the real question to this thread should be...
Has ANYONE married a JW and been happy?