Has ANYONE married someone who is not a jw and been/is happy???? (page 2)

MsGrowingGirl20

Magwitch nice!!! anyone feel free to answer Magwitch's question

jean-luc picard

Once married an elders daughter and lived many years in "hell".

Now married to a Catholic!!!! for 15 years. I have never loved and felt so loved.

I was thinking about this recently. In the " truth" , I tried to be a good, caring, loving husband.

But, hey thats normal. As Paul said " miserable man that I am. I have only done what I ought to have done."

So in the "truth", no one EVER thought to love me back. I realize now that I never felt loved in all the years ( nearly 30 ) that I was in. Everything I did was just EXPECTED of me.

Today I am loved and appreciated, by my wife and all of her family. I have never been so happy.

No marriage is ever garanteed. But JWs do NOT have a monopoly on happy family life.

MsGrowingGirl20

JW'S do not have a monopoly on happy family life...so tru Jean-luc

So true..i remember whenever i used to see happy families who were not jw's i would always formulate some reason in my mind why they can't be truly happy.

Disillusioned Lost-Lamb

Do you mean one's that married outside and stayed or one's who married outside and left?

I can't think of many truly happy marriages in the borganization; in fact I don’t see much happiness inside the borg period.

However, one's who have married a worldly and left is a whole other story.

Lozhasleft

I was married to my ex for nearly 30 years. We became JWs together which I hoped would help the marriage. It made it all very much worse.

I am now married (since leaving the Org) to a confirmed atheist. He is the most wonderful husband in the world. Kind, caring, romantic, loyal, funny. Just the best. I can't believe how wonderful a happy marriage can be.

Loz x

St George of England

When I was growing up there was a sister in my congregation who went out with a non-JW guy. He was quite a bit older than her, very 'worldly', always in the pub etc. Anyway as soon as she was old enough she married the guy against everyones advice and without her parents permission.

Fast forward 50 years, they are still happily married. He never came into the 'truth' but comes along for the memorial etc. Their children were raised as JW's and still are. Grandchildren mostly left as soon as old enough.

George

TD

My wife ---

MsGrowingGirl20

very sweet TD

Broken Promises

A wise piece of advice my father used to offer (oh no, Daddy issues ) is:

Just because you're both JWs doesn't guarantee that you'll have a happy marriage. You have to have more than that in common - compatibility, similar interests, that "spark", etc.

He counselled so many JWs who had bad marriages because they married assuming that just because both partners were JWs was all that was needed to make a marriage work.

venetian

My hubby and I have been married for 30 years this year. Throughout our years as JW's so much pressure was put on both of us to take the lead/ study with kids/set the example/reach out etc. Not to mention the constant routine of meetings field service, pre study etc that our JW marriage was put under extreme pressure to the point of separating. Neither of us were truly happy for years but managed to maintain a front.

Now since we have both left, I LOVE my husband for who he truly is and not based on how he is perceived by the rest of the congregation. Its as if we are newlyweds again, discovering ourselves, our likes and dislikes. I had no idea after all these years that my hubby wanted to learn to jive but couldn't say so because it was "worldly" and we didn't have the time!

So we're learning to jive, and LOVIN IT!!

Has ANYONE married someone who is not a jw and been/is happy????

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