An elder's wife once said to me that because my husand was not active in the orgainzation, the elders could tell me what to do. I didn't belive her( I was a mere 19, should have been rebellious, but I wasn't). I did not dispute her allegation.
Years later my husband asked me (in a sarcasic tone)"When did you get so independent and smart?"I answered "When I left the organization, went to work, and got my University degree!". Now I say "I am the boss of me!" I feel just like that
song."You can't even run your own life, I'll be dammed if you'll run mine!"
DLL, you are so right! They are terrified of any independent woman. And we can be such an asset to them! What are they thinking?
Witless men are terrified of a strong independent single woman, so they pry into your personal life where they have no right to and ought not.