Welcome ! Your post brought a tear to my eye ......please please please call your sister.....
can of worms -ranting
by so confused 32 Replies latest jw friends
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mouthy
Welcome ....Good to see your thinking!!!! Remember they dont allow that in the Org.(independent thinking)
I was one for over 25 years. I made 10 people JWs ( besides my own kids) .I suggest you
speak to your sister. She had the blinders taken off I guess. And I was df because I dont
believe Jesus came invisably in 1914.......
You would be helping you & hubby both by reading Criises Of Concience,,,,
I have had a support group here in Canada for those who were DF,,,, We have had over 700 go through it
I would also advise ( since I am the GRANNY on board) to continue to pray....Ask the WAY TRUTH LIFE to
come into your heart.... I did & my life is in HIS hands,,, True he doesnt force anyone to worship him
he allowes us to think for ourself.
http://exjw.weebly.com Grace Gough( known as Mouthy) -
diamondiiz
Waking up to the reality is very tough. Many here have gone through what you're going through. I know I did. We believed in god where we would live forever on paradise and all that. But that was a lie to begin with. At this point it's hard to say where your journey will take you, because when you examine the bible itself to many of us here it turned out to be a book full of myths and fiction. But some still keep their faith in god.
My advise is, examine the bible with an open mind. Renew your relationship with your df sister, apologize to her is a good start. Find real friends and not conditional friends because the jws that you know, you will lose at some point during your journey.
The temporary life is most likely the real life you have so make the best of it. Look at the history of humankind, billions died before us and we haven't heard a sound from them since, so there is a good chance that is what our end will be. Reality is tough and I suppose somewhat sad when compared to a fairy tale that we were led to believe but we can make our lives enjoyable and real.
The things you imagined you would do in the new system, see if you can do them now while you're alive.
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Inisc
Welcome so confused!
Give your sister a call. I bet she will be thrilled to hear from you and youll probably be closer than you ever were because you don't have cult mentality standing In your way.
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mind blown
Welcome SC! Thank you for sharing your post! Please be easy on yourself, and take as much time as you need
I've been out for a very long time. The reason I left in the first place and became inactive was out of deep depression, I felt dead as a JW. Later I was DF while out (story too long) . The only reason I recently started investigating was that a very close family member started studing, and for some reason I was prompted to investigate for the first time just a couple years ago. I WAS IN SHOCK to come accross all that I now know about the WTS, therefore my name mind blown!!
Thank you Blondie for also posting your info, every little bit I can get has been of much help!
This video was posted by another poster, however, it has chilling information about 607 and documented historical proof that date is incorrect.
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LostGeneration
I agree with the others on reconnecting with your sister. Simply say you are trying to take a more open-minded approach to life and where it takes you.
The paradise earth concept is a slick trick the society uses on the flock. Reading the NT alone would give you zero idea that you would live on earth with pandas, all the while wearing khaki pants or floral printed dresses.
In the end I gave up the concept because the paradise earth picture painted by the society removes the idea of free will. For example, what happens after 1,000,000,000 years some people get tired of having picnics and tending to their garden? Maybe they decide to open a casino or start smoking weed. What then? Are they killed off simply because they are bored with "paradise earth" and want to try new things?
Basically letting your mind wander about what kind of world would really exist in JW paradise is an exercise that helps you realize that its quite silly to think it would be what God wants. A bunch of mindless zombies with no differences? No thanks.
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baltar447
You're in a very good place since both you and your spouse are questioning. You'll be able to support and lean on each other through the process of awakening and (probably) leaving.
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rebel8
The crazy thing is I still want it to be true.
That's not crazy at all. It's human nature to want to make sense out of the universe in the most simple and reassuring way. That doesn't make it the best or right thing to do, but it's what most people do--it's what we all have done too.
I asked my husband last night what are we going to do now? He stated "find the truth."
The truth is that some of the main life questions cannot be answered. The real journey is accepting that.
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enda75
I've not been on this site for sometime but when my sis Scary 21 told me about your story it brought tears to my eyes. I had to log on and add my comment. Scary and I were both raised JW, I believed it was the truth for 53 years. When people would accuse them of being a cult, I would upset me. Now I have come to terms that they are a CULT trying to brainwash you and control every part of your life. Think for yourself! Does THE ORGANIZATION even approve of you having A FB page or even being on the internet? Just hit the accept button and go from there. No man alive would ever tell me I could not talk to my sister. I know a mother that still has a realationship with her disassociated daughter. Where is the love?
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tornapart
Hi So confused. I'm still an active JW (born in) but seen so many falsehoods over the years. It all came to head for me a few months ago. I read Ray Franz's two books and everything fell into place. It was very difficult to take in but I'm taking things slowly. Don't feel you have to rush it. Learn all you can. As for your sister, you could add her to FB if you make friend lists and keep her separate and make your friend list invisible. Only mutual friends will see each other. Or you could just send her a message. I'm sure you could find a way. Cutting off family members from each other is one of the cruelest things done IMO. Keeping the congregation clean is one thing, tearing families apart is another.
www.jwfacts.com is a good website for info. www.jwstruggle.com is a good website for doubting JWs who need support. All the best. :)