Hi you 2 - nice to see you are both continuing this conversation
A few years ago I did some research on the problems abuse survivors had in finding professional help. From my persoanl experience I knew it was hard to find someone - at that time any one who knew about incest. It took me 15 years to find some one willing to let me talk about it and the first person was controlling and too motherly for me. In the research I did I discovered that my experience was not unique. Although I realize that there is a lot more awareness out there now than in the past there is still a huge problem in people getting the help they need. A professional credentials are not always the best way to determine how good or effective he/she may be in working with abuse survivors.
Here is an excerpt from the study - and I am not a researcher by trade - much prefer the counseling end of it.
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Thirty-eight (84.44%) of respondents live at or below the poverty line. With such limited resources the possibility of private therapy is inaccessible. In spite of the cost 29 (64.44%) of respondents are presently in therapy and 20 (68.97%) pay between $20-$80 (average $50 per session). Many respondents reported negative experiences with therapists in the past and in some situations these experiences prevented them from seeking further individual therapy. Many of these respondents turned to free self-help groups as an alternative to individual therapy. Survivors reported a range of problems, from mild to severe, with this self-help format.
Individual Therapy
Survivors reported on the length of time needed to find suitably trained and supportive therapists (from a few months to 29 years). Many were still looking for help, others could not afford what was available and still others had simply given up trying. Only one respondent stated that she no longer needed therapy. Respondents had collectively seen 164 therapists (average 3.64) and reported that 80 of these therapists were not effective in helping them. Respondents often reported the reactions they received from various therapists while searching for help. Therapists ignored the reports of abuse (n=15), did not believe reports or dismissed them as fantasy (n=8), showed no reaction (n=5), or were very directive (forcing the client into confrontation before they felt ready) (n=3). Therapists often reinforced their clients feelings of being "untouchable", or being "psychologically raped" and of guilt.
Respondents also reported what was positive about the good therapists they found. Almost every survivor stated that their therapist "supported me" (n=19), "believed me" (n=4), "encouraged me to talk" (n=3), "listened to me" (n=2), "showed empathy" (n=2), "took me seriously", and "encouraged me to talk, remember, feel". A few survivors mentioned that their therapists were knowledgeable.
Self-help groups
Thirty-four respondents reported that they have attended a total of 59 self-help groups. Responses to these groups varied widely from "a wonderful & very effective support group" to "the group was totally out of control - a frightening experience." Responses regarding group experiences were more negative than positive. One respondent stated that it felt like "the blind leading the blind". Another stated "the meetings are sometimes disorganized and I do not always get a chance to express feelings". One respondent stated that the group she attended was a "very pretentious, self-centered group. I was totally ignored".
One respondent who participated in a group with a therapist stated that the therapist was "probing, directive, theatrical, issues skimmed". The therapist "was intent on putting on a good show of how much she could get people to disclose, but she didn't know what to do with it after". Another person stated that she felt forced to talk when she didn't want to. Respondents repeatedly stated that the groups would be better served if there was a trained therapist present to help them deal with issued as they arose and to help organize the group.
Some groups helped respondents "get more in touch with (my) "feelings", and allowed them to "talk about the abuse openly and honestly". One respondent stated that, "it is of great comfort to be with people who truly understand and unconditionally offer both their friendship and support".
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Clearly there are a lot of problem finding good help and sadly those who need the help the most are often the least able to afford it. I have also been in the situation where professionals with a lot more training than I referred their patients to me becuase they knew from experience that I could help many people that they could not. When going to conferences on abuse the consensus seems to be that most often it is the newest professionals, those in still in training and those with the least experience who are most likely to have victims of abuse disclose experiences to them. In Canada most psychiatrists do not do cognitive therapy with their patients. Their business is to diagnose mental disorders and prescribe medications. Many psychiatrists do not know much about PTSD or the treatment modalities used to help victims.
In my experience both as a professional and as the clinet I have always found social workers or social counselors to be the most informed and best able to help survivors. The psychologists I have met and worked with have rarely been of real help to the people who go to them for help. I sure hope this is changing. And I hope it is a phenomenon that was limited to the area and professionals I knew. And yes I've met my share of bad social workers too.
Rejoice in the healing and not in the pain.
Rejoice in the challenge overcome and not in the past hurts.
Rejoice in the present - full of love and joy.
Rejoice in the future for it is filled with new horizons yet to be explored. - Lee Marsh 2002