Hi all. I’ve been lurking here for quite a while, and I've decided to finally make myself known. I left home about 6 months ago, moving about 150 miles away to a larger city for a job. Being single and so far away from home, the move became a perfect opportunity to fade. I found many tips and tricks on this board and elsewhere that have been useful in my fade. I had my publisher card transferred to a local cong in this area went to a few meetings and then I transferred to a different cong. I went to the next cong a few times and then disappeared. For contact with my parents and other dubs back home I have a separate cell phone and a po box (no one has my real address). I have been living “off the grid” for a few months now, which has allowed me to begin building a new life and making new friends. Suddenly though have started to run into a few problems. First my mom started calling me more often (on the dub phone) bugging me about field service, meetings and the like. I usually let the calls go to voicemail, trying to ignore the problem. Then I started getting calls from my aunt. My aunt is a single, angry, bitter woman with nothing better to do but poke her nose into other people’s business. The phone messages from my aunt are becoming more frequent and sometime she is downright nasty. She is constantly saying that she knows I am not going to the hall or going out on field service. I guess she is trying to scare me. She would probably love to get me df'd and shunned just to be vendictive. From what she said in the last message I think she may have tried to contact the elders and a local cong somewhere around here, possibly the first cong that my card was sent to, but I’m not sure. My questions to everybody here are:
Beint that my old cong back home doesn't have my cards anymore, does that mean tha they can't take any kind of disiplinary actiosn against me? Although I don't know what they could disiplin me for. Could they just make up a new card for me and declare me part of their cong again?
Is it possible that the local cong that currently has my card send it back to my "home cong"? Would the even have any record of where I originally came from?
If I just "lie low" and do nothing what if anything can they do? Should I just ignore the phone calls and hope that the smoke blow over?
Any advice is greatly appreciated.