Those of you in relationships, when your partner gets clingy, is it flattering, irritating? How do you deal with it?

by La Falta Habitacion Por Sr Hor-Hey!! 34 Replies latest jw friends

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  NewChapter

  BGB, it sounds like it was absolutely suffocating! I've been there and it is so miserable there are no words. The problem is that at first it can seem flattering, like a bond. But then as it plays out, panic sets in and I start looking for an emergency exit.

  Today, I won't be in a relationship with anyone that is uncomfortable with me going off to do my own thing----and is not comfortable doing THEIR own thing without me. It's actually a requirement. At the very beginning I firmly assert that I do have a fully formed life with interests, and I expect them to have the same. That I enjoy doing things together, but expect them to enjoy doing things without me too. That there is balance, and losing the balance is a deal breaker.

  I've obviously given this much thought! As far as I'm concerned, there are only a few things worse than clinging. It betrays a deep insecurity, and I can't be a band aid. Bring on Alanis Morseitte!

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nRtOcpVUFtc

  NC
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  wasblind

  New Chapter
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  ShirleyW

  Yeah New Chapter it was addressed in the first post but Hor Hey denied that he's Miz, my womens intution is kinda telling me something difference, (in my most humble of opinions, I might add)
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  SixofNine

  it's Miz.
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  Lozhasleft

  Yes I agree with BGB and NC ... My ex started with a flattering 'clinging' which developed into a horrific toxic marriage where I became falsely accused of and abused for all his sick and insecure wild imaginings.

  Nowadays me and the hubby believe that trust is non negotiable, so this silly, damaging behaviour doesn't even rear it's ugly head, thankfully. Happy days.

  Loz x
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  Iamallcool

  If I date someone that is too clingy, we will not stay together for very long!
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  TOTH

  Mrs. TOTH was never clingy or needy. So in that relationship she is not an issue. OTHER women in my past have been overly clingy/needy and it was a little bit flattering but soon grew tiresome. I tend to be a flirty and romantic guy and I am told that Mrs. TOTH finds it VERY irritating. I tell her how adorable she is and how I need her kisses more than I need air to breathe and she says, "SHUT IT!" Or, "Get over it" when I tell her she's mean to me...LOL She says that I'm, "apegoste" or like, "un chicle apegado", which in Spanish means clingy or like gum stuck to her shoe... LOL
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  mrsjones5

  There have been times when I have felt clingy, I realize that I was feeling insecure but being clingy is not something I cultivate.
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  moshe

  My second wife was bipolar and she had "needs" she wanted taken care of 3x a day, if she could get it.
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  NewChapter

  And this was a problem for ya? LOL