I don't like the word Apostate. It implies that the original entity was truthful. Instead I like to think I am a truth-seeker.
But, to answer your question, anyone hurt or opposed to the JW org likely wants to be able to walk away and not have their reputation damaged, their privacy invaded, or the center of speculation and gossip. Most want to feel like a non contaminated person, like a person who did not have the scars of a controlling, mind numbing religion. Most of all, all humans thrive on love, family, happy times. If the JWs would let the strongest bond known to man (familial love) not be broken by directives from Brooklyn, I think folks who have left would feel like fair is fair.